Dude Panel Letters

How to date a superhero, part deaux

Someone really smart once said that a hero ‘is a self-driven, value intoxicated doer.’ I would say the same thing about most guys. And if he’s not already, then he aspires to be. 97.3% of a man’s daily thoughts are about his purpose in life. ...

What makes men happy

Frank Ocean is singing through my laptop speakers... I just killed a big glass of orange juice... I'm writing this letter to you... And I'm happy. I was actually just talking to Dave Booda about this earlier today. What could a woman do to make a ma ...

You inspire me

When we first started, I told you that I wanted some new friends and that I like the idea of talking to you regularly. As much as you think that you’re benefitting from these letters, I’m benefitting a lot from writing them. I love hearing your t ...

Do you make THIS mistake with men?

"What are some of the biggest misconceptions women have about men?" –– Kay . . . The biggest misconception woman have about men is that we make our decisions about who to date with reason and logic. It's confusing, I know. Almost every other deci ...

Abracadabra

Let's be real here: Life can absolutely suck sometimes. During those moments of complete despair, where everything seems to be crashing all around you, it's very easy to raise a fist to the heavens and cry, "Why is this happening to me?!!!" But the t ...

The secret to dating hot guys

Sorry about yesterday. I was lying in my hotel room in Managua freaking out and I didn't feel like writing anything. Then I threw down casheesh on a deposit for a place to stay during Rio Carnival 2014. I woke up feeling inspired to both work and wor ...

How to date a superhero

From childhood, guys have been told to “be a man”, “man up” and “be strong”. We confused little boys took this to mean that we needed to do everything on our own, never ask for help, and never show emotion. Our idols became steely, intens ...

How to stop dating douchebags

One day I was driving through an alley in Venice when I saw an ex-roommate of mine holding his hand over his right eye. I drove up to him and said, 'Dude, what happened?!' He removed his hand and showed me a huge black eye that led me to believe that ...

You've been played

This could be a very long month for you...

Today marks the beginning of a very important time in every man's life. Today is the start of Wild Card Weekend. (If you don't know what Wild Card Weekend is...shame on you. It's the official beginning of the NFL playoffs.) Many men, all around the w ...