If I Loved Myself Website

But if I say yes...

What will happen? Do you mostly say yes or no to yourself? A choice that feels good to you and leaves your heart peaceful begins with you saying yes to yourself and giving yourself permission to exist.  I really need to rest now. No, you can't, th ...

Are you making drama?

What do you choose for yourself? There's a simple way to createfear or calm in your life... In 2019 when Covid first began and we all went into lockdown for the first time, many were freaking out and I ran a 21-Day Quarantine Quest to help people m ...

What? Love myself at work?!

How is that even possible...? Do you love yourself at work? This might seem odd, but I find it needs to be said: You don’t stop being a person while you’re at work. You remain a person with needs and preferences wherever you go. We spend such a ...

How rude was THAT?!

I couldn't believe I did it... Did I really just say that? Ok, so here's the scene: For the first time in weeks my family was watching a movie together. AND by some amazing stroke of luck, it was a movie we were all enjoying! This is a rarely-achiev ...

That won't work!

You're missing the important part. Nothing worked until now! she said. That's because you were missing something very important. I replied. It was difficult not to get all puffy-chested and ego-stroked when she enthused, I've done SO many self-dev ...

Stepping into what's scary...

is worse than NOT doing it. When you compromise your truth... When I was in my early twenties I chose the 'easy' road - and boy, did I regret it! I was overseas and in a toxic living arrangement. I knew I had to move. So I started to search for othe ...

Is your therapist perfect?

I'm so pathetic!

Free self-love training for doctors and therapists. I'm losing the will to live. I’m so pathetic! she says to me in our therapy session one day. I know I shouldn't complain but I don't know how much longer I can do this. I wake up in the morning ...

Is this your purpose?

Maybe it's not... What is your life purpose? It’s probably not what you think it is.  I think you are already fulfilling your life purpose right now as you read this.  We have this notion that our life purpose is something we do.  It’s your w ...

Are you being stupid?

You may not even realise it. When people do stupid things... People are so stupid sometimes she says, exasperated in our therapy session. How can they not see that if they take that action it will hurt me and cause harm to others around them? I’ ...