One of the tips we shared in our recent online class was from Brené Brown, bestselling author and researcher, who explains that when we say ‘no’, what we’re really doing is choosing discomfort over resentment.

Nobody says that saying ‘no’ is easy. Nobody says it feels great. What feels worse, though, are the days and weeks after a ‘yes’ you weren’t really ‘feeling', that you spend resenting something. And resenting yourself, perhaps, for allowing this unwanted complication into your life.

People talk about Bucket Lists, but our lives are also shaped by our Ditch Lists. The habits, choices and responsibilities that we drop. Now. So we can give meaning to our ‘yes’.

It can help to get really clear on what a ‘yes’ is going to cost you. To yourself, say:

• “I’ll say yes to your request for help at the last minute, but it will mean I’ll miss date night and I'll be disappointing my partner."
  
  
• “I’ll help with your fundraiser and it will cost me watching my son’s soccer."

If the cost is high, or if you’re not feeling a ‘HELL YEAH’, then the healthy way to answer is ‘no’. A simple ‘no’ is best. (Never complain, never explain is Emma’s 83-year-old mum’s mantra!)

Our online class was packed with content like this, on 7 key topics that help you wrangle your decisions and shape a life you’ll really love. Catch the replay now, for a limited time.