As I began to evaluate my goals for the year and what I have accomplished up to this point I cannot help to reflect back on some areas that I found myself stuck in a month ago. In the past I would spin my wheels trying to figure it out on my own, however this time I decided to seek outside help. Having a team of individuals that support you and perhaps have the skill set to help you tackle that goal is crucial. Two of the individuals that are on my team are my counselor and my life coach. I am sure you are wondering why I would have a counselor. Well to be honest and transparent with you (most counselors would not share this). Counselors struggle with the same areas that their clients struggle with and it is crucial for me as a clinician to seek help to ensure I can maintain a level of emotional well being to for myself, which will ultimately positively impact the services I provide for my clients. The reason most people don't seek counseling is due to a lack of understanding and unwarranted myths that exist. 

Here are several of the myths that keep individuals from seeking help:

1. I know myself what needs to be done, I just need to do it.
Precisely. Many of us suffer all sorts of problems because we don't have enough support or motivation to start or to follow through. A counselor can help you to clarify your goals, create feasible strategies that consider the obstacles you are likely to face, and act as a supportive partner in the process.

2. It is awkward to tell a stranger about my problems.
Your therapist is just another human being with his or her own problems and shortcomings, able to personally relate to your situation to an extent. A good therapist conveys empathy and patience when listening to you and makes your first session comfortable by explaining the process of therapy and asking questions to prompt you to describe your concerns with greater ease. In addition to their psychological expertise, therapists should have the essentials skills of connection and warm regard, so that you quickly feel at ease, begin the process of relating to and connecting with your therapist, and look forward to return for your next session.

3. I am shy and not much of a talker.
Many of us are reserved when it comes to discussing private matters. Talking to someone who is warm, empathic and able to ask relevant questions, show support, and encourage you as you talk is especially important for a shy person. In addition to resolving personal problems through therapy, a shy person can improve social skills, become better at and more comfortable talking to others.

4. Therapy is expensive. I can't afford it.
People commonly overestimate the actual out-of-pocket cost of therapy to a patient, as many insurance plans cover the cost of sessions. Many insurance plans include mental health coverage, and it is likely you will be responsible only for the cost of co-pays or a portion of the fee quoted for a session. If you don’t have health insurance or your plan does not cover counseling, try to find a therapist willing to offer some discount to make it more affordable.

As you can see having a supportive counselor to help you work through areas that impact you can impact you emotionally will directly impact you moving forward for the remainder of the year as you seek to achieve your goals.