“You’re never going to hang out with us ever again, are you?” she said.
This was after I made “a face” sometime during the group’s conversation about hunting animals or gluten-related diseases.
5 more minutes of conversation and she said it again:
“You’re SO not gonna hang out with us again, huh.”
And though I didn’t really care to join in on conversations about shooting exotic animals in the face, I also wasn’t thinking about whether I’d want to see her again. But the more she suggested it, the more it made me not want to hang out with her again.
And women do this all time, every day.
They project their fears, often verbally. Throw in a couple assumptions about what a man is thinking or how he’s feeling, and you’ve got a perfect cocktail for a “self-fulfilling prophecy”.
So if you have not heard it before, let me tell it to you straight:
Don’t speak your fears into existence.
Don’t assume the worst. Don’t project your insecurities on any man unless you want to feel them back.
Because you create your life with your words and actions.
So gather the best material to create with. (And fear isn’t one of them.)
Bueno?
Bueno.
One more thing, Booda and I have two new podcasts up on iTunes available for your listening pleasure. In them you’ll learn:
* The #1 most important thing to do when flirting with a man you don’t know. (Nope, it’s not twirling your hair or batting your eyelashes…it’s something far more important.)
* What a man is REALLY saying when he gives you one-word answers.
* 1 HUGE relationship mistake that most women make (and what to do instead).
* How to get older men to take you seriously.
* How the late (great) storyteller Walt Disney FVCKED YOU UP as a child and how knowing this will give you an instant advantage over other women.
* A perfect example of what NOT to do when a man is in The Zone. (This plays out in real time and you can hear what’s going on in man’s head when The Zone is disrupted.)
* How to get your man to show “ugly faces” in bed. (The naughty, sexy kind that he may be embarrassed to show. DO THIS and you’ll see them all the time!)
* And much more!
Download yourself a good time here:
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Obi
P.S. One more thing…
Booda and I are giving away a FREE hourlong audio called “The Sex Cookbook” when you sign up to get The Boyfriend Recipe. If you want to learn THE WAY to get a man and keep a man, you’ll get everything you need to know.
Details here:
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