| Hi,
I'm writing you today because it is a very special day today.
On the 16th of January 1999, I got married, today 18 years ago.
And I thought this was a good occasion to talk about relationships. As in all marriages, mine has known ups and downs.
We went through several hardships, and this was a test for our relationship and our connection only got deeper.
And if there is one thing that I learned, it is that real love is about giving each other space, about accepting the other as (s)he is, giving each other the freedom to develop his/her talents, supporting each other to unfold and blossom.
I do not believe in the romantic love from the movies where we claim the other person, we demand and need the other person, where we want the other to correspond to an image we have in our head, where we try to change or even manipulate our partner. Chasing love, running after love, is a sign that you think that you are not love and that you have to search for that love outside yourself.
Once you realize that all the love you are looking for in your partner is really inside of you, you become more relaxed, balanced, loving, giving and confident in all the relationships you have with others.
I love this quote from Osho which illustrates this very well: I love, because my love is not dependent on my object of love. My love is dependent on my state of being. So whether the other person changes, becomes different, does not matter, because my love was never dependent on the other person. My love is my state of being. I simply love...
So realize that you are lovable just the way you are, you deserve love and relax in that knowing. I did a special Facebook live on that topic today that you can watch here.
From this beautiful place of knowing, I send you love... Barbara.
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