Most clients that want to lose weight I have worked with are far  too harsh on themselves.

They have an attitude that drives the belief that they need to be “hard” on themselves, but there is a huge difference between being hard on yourself and being supportive and helpful.

Just imagine for a moment saying the things you often say to yourself in that same tone to a person in your life that you love and care about.

For example, imagine saying to that person “you’re so lazy, fat &  stupid, you’ll never lose weight”. (harsh I know, but I want to point out the things that people are often saying to themselves constantly). Do you think that would motivate them or just make them feel even worse?

How many times have we been haunted by memories of things people said in the past when we were younger that to this day you can still remember it clearly. 

Now, imagine you wanted to help and support this person. What would you say to them? Notice how your words and tone are different, probably more supportive. What would happen if you began talking to yourself this way?

Remember you don’t need to be that hard on yourself to get great results, you just need to be effective and helpful.

Start turning the volume of that voice down or changing it into a silly voice like Bart Simpson or Scooby Doo at least it will be less believable and you will probably just laugh.  


Regards



Biodun Ogunyemi