"Those who betray and/or abandon their spouses employ many mental tactics to justify their choices and behaviors. The chief way is through a process called 'rationalizing.' Webster defines the word rationalize: ‘To devise superficially rational or plausible explanations or excuses (for one’s acts, beliefs, or desires) usually without being aware that these are not the real motives.’ American Heritage Dictionary defines rationalize: ‘To devise self-satisfying but incorrect reasons for (one’s behavior).’ In my research about rationalizing, I’ve come across one of the major theories behind how this process in the human mind works, known as the theory of cognitive dissonance. In essence, cognitive dissonance is when we experience conflicting beliefs at the same time which in turn creates great discomfort or dissonance of conscience and belief.” 

~ Linda Jean MacDonald

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"Infidelity or the notion thereof usually conflicts with a person’s religious or moral beliefs – at least in the beginning. If a person toys with the idea long enough or gets tempted by a touch or look, he/she may act out yet feel terrible about what he/she has done. Yet, if he/she keeps engaging in these wrong behaviors, the dissonance gets louder and creates so much internal havoc, the person may decide to dispose of their prior principles and embrace new beliefs that are more friendly to the pleasurable behavior."

~ Linda Jean MacDonald

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"In experiments it has been proven that when a person’s prior beliefs are in conflict with a pleasurable or rewarding forbidden emotion, the internal clashing between emotion and beliefs (cognitive dissonance) can only last so long. Often times a person may be so swayed by their emotions that they reject their prior beliefs or morals and find a way to justify pursuing the pleasure or good feelings. Thus, a new set of beliefs must be constructed in order to stop a nagging conscience from being tormented by the newly adopted behaviors. These new beliefs are considered faulty but effective rationalizations so the person can live with him/herself." ~ Linda Jean MacDonald

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"One factor that increases the susceptibility of a person to great self-deception regarding infidelity, is the cocktail of hormones that get released when a person steps out of the marriage into the realm of the 'forbidden.'  Below is a quote from my e-book, 'Who Will You Become?':Scientists have found that romantic highs are fueled by mood-lifting neurotransmitters such as dopamine, serotonin, adrenalin, oxytocin, and norepinephrine. However, the strongest cause of your current euphoria is a hormone called phenylethalamine. This particular hormone is released during fresh infatuation and resembles the chemical make-up of morphine.[i]  These neuro-chemicals have distorted your sense of reality. You are, in essence, under the influence of drugs.  Right now, you may think your eyes are finally open and you feel more alive than ever before. Yet you do not realize that your eyes are seeing through tainted lenses and your mind is in a hormone driven fog. What seems like mental clarity and finding the love of your life is really an illusion created by the chemicals in your brain. These neurochemicals feel so good, they create a false contrast with your marriage. Only you don’t know it yet...Barriers intensify romantic feelings."

~ John Gray