Avoiding conflict is a one of my soul’s lifelong lessons. In fact, I’ve learned to have clear energetic boundaries so I can avoid conflict. But as much as I try, I still encounter places in my most intimate relationships where I have to face my discomfort.
The closer someone is to me, the harder it is to tell them if something they have done doesn’t work for me. I can’t say exactly why conflict feels so risky to me but that’s the way cruxes work. They itch at your blind spots, hiding in plain sight and keep coming back to invite growth in different ways.
I have a friend who enjoys a good scrap and has fun with conflict. For me even witnessing it between people when I’m not part of the energetic fist fight can leave me feeling tense, exhausted, my stomach icky. So, I avoid it if I can.
Recently facing one of these moments I asked myself, “what is the worst thing that could happen if I told the person they hurt me, whacked me or dumped on me with their energy?”...
