Hi Friend,
Every day I talk to you. Mothers, daughters, sisters, grandmothers, aunts, friends, and clients and you’re telling me you want something more. Some of you are tired and many are exhausted. I get that.
You’re telling me you want to do a little less for others so you can do a little more for yourself.
But that doesn’t come easily.
How do you say no when you’ve been saying yes most of your life? Maybe you don’t want to feel bad about saying no to someone else, so you say no to yourself. Or you can’t find anyone else to take over what you no longer want to do.
I’ve heard you say you don’t feel appreciated by the very loved ones you care for. Interestingly, it’s the box most often checked off on my intake form for new clients.
Maybe you’re concerned about what people with think of you, so you keep on giving. And now it’s starting to hurt to give so much. It shows up in your life as moodiness, disappointment, frustration, discontent, and feeling taken for granted. It shows up in weight gain, back pain, sleepless nights, food cravings, low energy, or no energy. How long will you continue to neglect yourself to make other people happy? Where are you on your list of things to do?
Here’s what your life could look like if you say yes to you.
I’m working with someone who is a great mom, wife, and sister. You might remember her from a previous message. She cooks, she cleans, and she works. Her four children young adult children still live at home. They have a dog. She’s put on weight, has chronic back pain and trouble sleeping. Somewhere along the way she lost herself in the daily grind.
But there’s good news. After just two sessions, she’s beginning to see a light. She said no to an event she’d planned to attend because her back went out. Her exact words to me when she told me were:
“I’m doing what we talked about. I’m not going because I know it’s not the best thing for me right now.”
I could hear the pride in her voice as she shared that with me. I also heard the hesitation. This is new territory for her.
She told me that even though she loves to cook, she hates food shopping and putting away groceries. So, she asked one of her sons to do the grocery shopping. This may not sound like a lot to you, but to her it is everything. She is learning how to gently delegate and thoughtfully say no to things that aren’t right for her right now. And best of all, she’s excited about the changes she’s making and putting the focus on herself. She is finding her way back to wellness.
Are you ready to take small steps to reclaim a piece of your one precious life?
If you’re ready to step out of your comfort zone and into a new way of living, I invite you to join me and other women like us in the group program, Let’s Start with You. Together we’ll get to the root of the issues holding you back and create some much-needed space to explore the life you’ve been longing for.
Wishing you well,
