Friend,
Have you ever felt like you can't handle one more thing that life throws at you?
I know I have!
But here's the truth - your ability to handle life's situations is much greater than you allow yourself to believe; let me explain.
As a child, you lacked the maturity and resourcefulness to handle life challenges; your not-yet-developed coping skills were completely overwhelmed when life because 'difficult' and it caused you to feel out of control. This overpowering sense of overwhelm would have been even stronger if your environment was chaotic, traumatic, or stressful as mine was. If you, as a child, were not taught to see events as normal, surmountable, or otherwise benign while being given the skills and tools to process them, you will have developed a pattern of feeling inordinately overwhelmed under pressure.
This then became a HABIT.
You are no longer that small child who felt helpless; you are a strong, competent, and resourceful adult. You need to allow yourself to see it as such. You have already overcome so much if you are still here on this planet!
You will experience whatever you tell yourself or expect to feel. If you focus on thoughts like "this is too much," "I can't handle this," or any other limiting affirmation, then that is precisely what you will experience. For this reason, I will not allow myself to say "I am overwhelmed" because doing so will ensure that I experience that very thing.
On the other hand, when life hits you hard, if you focus on the truth, that you have already overcome much and are resourceful, you will overcome your situation much more quickly and with less internal stress.
So the next time life hands you pain, upheaval, or drama (because it will), think of OTHER times when you thought you could NOT overcome, and you DID!!! This will re-frame your perspective from feeling defeated to feeling capable and empowered to get through this, too, because...
YOU ARE MORE CAPABLE THAN YOU GIVE YOURSELF CREDIT FOR.
Rock on, powerful one! |
