In this video, Dr Anna Baranowsky interviews Mark Wolynn author of It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who we Are and How to End the Cycle. http://www.markwolynn.com/book/
This book helps us to gain a pivotal understanding of the impact of historical generational trauma.
Mark investigates inherited family trauma in a unique manner that provides depth of understanding to individuals who struggle or life patterns with symptoms that do not seem to fit current circumstances.
In the interview we discuss Mark's perspective of inherited family trauma & what the latest research on epigenetics tell us about this.
“With the knowledge that emotions can be biologically communicated and the fact that three generations share the same biological environment in the womb ... Imagine the following scenario, a month before your mother is born, your grandmother receives devastating news that her husband has been killed in an accident. With a new baby to prepare for and little space to grieve the loss, your grandmother would likely submerge her emotion into the body she now shares with her [unborn] daughter [and her grandchild to come]. Many years later, you and your mother would know something about the grief some place deep inside of you a place all three of you share... ”
The book uses unique “Family History” questions – who died early, who left, who suffered war, murdered, wrongly accused, etc...
Key concepts covered in the book include:
- 1. Investigate your core complaint p. 90
- 2. 10 questions that generate core language p.98
- 3. Identify core sentence – p.111 & 113
- ( i.e., I'm alone, I don't deserve to live, This world is dangerous, etc.)
Mark uses a real case to illustrate how powerful his approach can be.
The use of genograms / traumagram to uncover core sentences are discussed as a powerful healing tool.
If you are ready to explore this yourself download our Traumagram package here or watch the next video in this season S.4.E.30 for a better understanding of how to use the Traumagram.
Healing language is briefly explored using language unique to Mark Wolynn's approach.
Finally, we reflect on what to do when relating to an unsafe parent or family member.