Ask Dr Anna (S.2.E.10)
I want to talk to you today about receiving.
A number of years ago I had a friend who became quite ill. She didn't feel that she deserved to receive care and kindness from others and instead carried the weight and burden of her own pain and suffering alone. I really had been open to her and wanted to help and support her. Yet she refused to remain open to me or anyone in her social circle. This sadly felt like a rejection to me. Unfortunately, at times in life we can feel overwhelmed and just shut down and retreat and tell ourselves that we don't want to be a bother to anyone. Sometimes we worry that if we receive from another than we MUST then give them something in return.
Giving is not supposed to have strings and neither is receiving. Are you holding yourself back from receiving graciously because you are concerned about what you have to give back now?
There is something really important about this. At times, receiving graciously can be as much as a gift as giving. Recognizing this is hugely important.
RECAP
1. If you know someone trying to reach out to you and be of support, especially after trauma, see if you can remain open to them
2. Remember that being able to receive graciously can be just as much of a gift as giving.
3. Challenge yourself to be open to at least one person today - just to receive graciously. You might find you have more support than you think you do
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