Subject: 2016 Healing Weekends Announced!

February 26, 2016
Benefits of Delaying Sexual Debut
Benefits of Delaying Sexual Debut (Second Edition)
Authored By: Christopher Doyle, IHF Executive Director

Today's adolescents have an array of challenges before them that previous generations never faced. Fifty years ago, there were only a handful of STIs; today, sexually active teens are at risk for acquiring over two dozen. At the same time, the age at first marriage has steadily risen by 20-25 percent, cohabitations have increased 9.75 times, and sex before wedlock has become the norm, not the exception. If that's not enough, combine the 24 hour media circus with a multi-billion dollar pornography industry, Victoria's Secret at every shopping mall, and Hollywood's sex-saturated messages broadcast in your living room, and you have a sex-on-demand culture being digested by our children every day.

The benefits that postponing sex offers young people is scientifically proven, but in order for adolescents to embrace this message these concepts need to be communicated effectively and often within public education. Surveys indicate that parents desire an abstinence message for their children; however, U.S. culture is simply not reinforcing this value, making it difficult for youth to understand the reasons why they should wait for sex. Thus, educational strategies should focus on the following conclusions that can be drawn from the benefits of delaying sexual debut.

Premarital sex has a negative impact on the physical health of adolescents, and typically hurts girls more than boys. Although sexually active young men are at risk to acquire STIs, females (especially younger girls) are more vulnerable to these infections because of their biological makeup. Girls are also more likely to suffer physical abuse in sexual relationships, and research indicates that adolescent females have a higher probability of contracting an STI when their romantic partner is substantially older. Typically, girls do not report using condoms as consistently as boys; and neither gender's brain is developed enough to make reasoned, future-oriented decisions about contraception. Girls also tend to pay a much higher price than boys when it comes to teenage pregnancy, as they are often left to carry and raise the child on their own.


Some of these physical consequences may also play a role in the psychological health outcomes of sexually active youth. For example, adolescent girls who are abandoned by their boyfriend after learning of a pregnancy may become depressed with the prospect of raising a child alone. Women also tend to make more of an emotional investment in romantic relationships, which could lead them down the path of seeking love through sex; this in turn may result in the vicious cycle of repetition/compulsion. On the other hand, boys typically suffer psychological symptoms only when combining sexual activity with other high risk behaviors, such as drug and alcohol use; and both genders are more likely to think about and commit suicide if they have initiated sex at a young age.

However, if young people wait, they avoid many of these risks, and stand to benefit from the social and financial advantages that abstinence offers. One of the best social outcomes that results from abstinence is the occurrence of healthy relationships. When adolescents choose to wait they avoid premarital sexual bonds with other partners. This in turn makes them far less likely to get involved in cohabitations, which is a major risk factor for future marital infidelity and divorce. Healthy marriages also benefit the well-being of each spouse (especially men), and provide a nurtur- ing environment for children. Another social benefit that stems from abstinence is increased financial stability. When adolescents avoid childbearing outside of marriage they are able to focus their attention on educational pursuits and future careers without having to sacrifice the time and money that a family demands.

2016 Healing Weekends Announced
The Institute for Healthy Families is offering a Men's Healing Weekend, Mother's Healing Weekend, and Father's Healing Weekend in 2016. We are happy to announce the dates and open registration! The dates are as follows:
Breakthrough Men's Healing Weekend
July 15-17, 2016
For men with unwanted same-sex attractions
Mother's Healing Weekend
September 9-11, 2016
For mothers of a same-sex attracted or gay-identified child


Father's Healing Weekend
November 4-6, 2016
For fathers of a same-sex attracted or gay-identified child



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