Each time we gather as a self loving community I am enriched more! 

Last week we had another Family Gathering - or as someone in the group quipped, "Our Family By Choice" -  for Advanced Self-Love Practitioners.

These are the healthcare practitioners who have completed my 8-month CPD-accredited course on self-loving decisions. (Just reply to this email if you're a practitioner or healer and you want to know more about the course).

During the conversation, Susanne Coetzee, a psychologist in the group, shared something she uses in her therapy with children. 

It was so lovely I asked her if I can share it with you all too and she kindly said yes. 

She explained to us that when she's trying to help a child understand how they feel towards something, she offers two toys. 

One is a spiky hard toy and one is a fuzzy soft one. 

She asks them, “Would you give it a Spiky, or a Fuzzy?”

Isn't that such a beautiful way of explaining it?

The group then started to comment on how we often give ourselves a Spiky, when it would be so much more productive and kind to give ourselves a Fuzzy. 

That’s what I wanted to share with you. 

So let's put this into practice now.

Have a look at your week that’s just passed and notice how many times you’ve given yourself a Spiky instead of a Fuzzy. 

And how many times did you give yourself a Fuzzy at all?

How do you feel about it?

I want to suggest you set an intention for yourself for this week ahead. 

Say this out loud right now and complete the sentence:

“This week I intend to be aware of whether I’m giving myself a Fuzzy or a Spiky. Especially when …(name something you find difficult, or that you're hard on yourself about)  I will deliberately give myself a Fuzzy such as … and see how it feels.”

Go on, say it aloud now if you haven't yet.

Then, please, do it all week.

If you loved yourself, how would you give yourself a Fuzzy right now?