In her book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, palliative nurse, Bronnie Ware, notes the painful truth that at the end of your life, as you look back on your choices, you know if you fulfilled your deepest wishes or not.
She reports that the number one regret people have on their deathbed is: I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
She writes:
When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled.
Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honor at least some of your dreams along the way.
The other four top regrets are about working too much, not taking the time to appreciate life, not connecting enough with our loved ones, and wishing we’d let ourselves be happier.
The thing is this.
At the end of your life, you won’t focus on whether your partner was satisfied with his meal or if you made lots of money or had a good figure.
You'll want to know, "Did I live my best life? Did I dare to follow my dreams and love whole-heartedly?"
What you'll be able to answer depends on your now choices.
Your deathbed satisfaction is within your control right now.
By the time you're there, it will be too late to do anything more.
Where can you start?
Ask the Love Question.
Use ALLOW to make your choices.
The gift of living life by using ALLOW, is that you learn how to follow your dreams and live a life that is deeply satisfying and meaningful so that you don’t have regrets on your deathbed.
Isn't that a nice thought?
If you loved yourself, what choice would you make now that will make you smile to remember it at the end of your life?
The ALLOW process is explained in my book You Have Permission to Exist.
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