The same theme ALWAYS comes up at my talks and workshops.
It's the most challenging part of learning how to love yourself in your decisions.
Other people.
They can be SO challenging, right?
Read some of the comments in just one of my recent workshops and you'll see what I mean.
I end up conflicted because I always think about others like my family. That has made me delay making decisions or put off things that are important. This is so sad when I reflect back thinking of how far I would be if I had just taken that one step forward.
I try to do and be everything to everyone and my truth is completely lost in the process. I look forward to learning how to turn towards my truth without guilt that I am somehow letting those around me down.
I definitely turn away from my true self- I feel huge guilt when I don’t put others (mainly my kids and husband) first.
Too often I put the needs of others above my own, to my own detriment.
im all about self care and have learnt the art of saying no but recently things have become so crazy especially with what's happening in the world, i unfortunately have been turning away, putting others first all the time, no self care, almost reached a burnout a few times and health has been impacted too
How do you make a choice knowing it's your truth but also knowing that this choice will make someone else (parents, husband, client) unhappy and in turn will make you unhappy as well?
See?
Other people can be SO confusing and frustrating in our quest to look after ourselves and live the life we long to live.
This is why two of the seven workshops in my practitioner's course are on how to love yourself in relationships, parenting and challenging relationships.
This is not a small topic!
The truth is, it’s neither selfish nor dangerous to honor your own needs.
Your heart naturally cares about others—you wouldn’t feel truly happy if your choices harmed them.
But that consideration of them has to come from you.
It must be your own inner truth, not dictated by someone else as what you 'should' do to please them.
As you’re learning in this If I Loved Myself journey, when you follow your inner truth step by step, you can make choices that honour both you and your loved ones.
It’s a delicate balance, but entirely possible—and it feels right.
And here’s the beauty of it: by living in alignment with your joy, you give others permission to do the same.
Imagine a world where everyone, including your loved ones, felt free to follow their true path.
That’s not just self-care—it’s a gift to everyone.
There's so much more to say about this and I can't possibly say it all here!
If you are a practitioner and you want to learn how to dare to love yourself in your choices in your family, relationships and work, this is your last chance to join the course. Registration closes tonight!
