Have you ever watched someone make a bad decision and not been able to stop them?
Years ago, my dear friend was offered a promotion at her toxic job.
It was one of those places that completely abused the staff.
They worked long hours, were paid very little, the managers were nasty and the atmosphere was one of back-stabbing, gossip and competition.
For years my friend was miserable there. She had the look of a hunted animal - her eyes were wide and haunted, her skin was slightly grey, she tired easily…
It was painful to witness.
But she didn’t leave.
“What else am I going to do?” was her answer if any of us said something.
Then one dreadful day, she told us they had offered her a management role.
All of us who loved her tried to convince her to get away from there, to say no.
But she didn’t.
Her fear and lack of self-belief were too strong. She couldn't believe anyone else wold hire her.
She accepted the position and was even more miserable in it.
Now, I know this might sound brutal, but from the outside (which yes, is always the easier position to be standing in), I felt like I was watching her kill herself slowly with her choices.
The thing is though, that from inside her situation, she could see no way out.
And how did it eventually end?
She developed an illness that made it impossible for her to remain there. Which was a whole other kind of difficult.
I'm sharing this painful story because I want you to know, there is always a way out of a situation that doesn't feel right to you.
Sometimes we really don’t see another alternative.
But if you're unhappy with something, there is always something you can do that will feel better to you. Ask the Love Question. It will show you the way.
Don't be afraid to get help. Go speak to a therapist. Find a free online support group. Read my book. Join my course...
You might convince yourself that accepting something you don’t really want, is not that important.
But it IS. It really, really is!
Don’t do it!
Trust me. For twenty-six years I’ve helped people untangle themselves from choices they regret.
If it doesn't feel right to you, DON’T DO IT!
If you loved yourself, what would you allow yourself to not choose now?
PS. I have decided on the name for my upcoming six-week course that will give you tools and support to stop choosing things that you regret. I'm very excited about it. Stay tuned. I'll keep you posted.
