Money is A Thing, isn't it?
Very few of us don't have Feelings about it.
And this time of year in the West it's a consumerist orgy! A lethal combination of vacation time, Black Friday, sales and massive, competitive, gift-buying pressure. You can easily end up feeling stressed about your finances or spending in ways you don’t feel good about later.
All your money issues and fears can rear up…
Do I have enough?
Will I make it through?
I feel guilty that I have so much and others have so little.
How will I survive next year if I spend this now?
How much can I spend without making others feel uncomfortable?
Have I done enough?
I can’t afford to do what they do, what does this mean about me?
If I don't have money, does it mean I've failed?
That’s why this week in the Self-Love Bootcamp we're focusing on how to love yourself with your money.
When money triggers fear and stress for us, it's usually because it's tapping into our survival, our status, our wellbeing…
We need money to survive so we get scared if we think we might not have enough and we get stressed when we have to spend more than we feel safe to let go of.
Money is also a status thing. In our capitalist world, He Who Has More, Is Better. So if you have self-worth and self-esteem issues, they’re going to be poked when the money conversation comes up.
The thing we often miss, is that money is not an external force which we have to survive and outwit.
It is a TOOL THAT WE USE.
We use it. It doesn’t use us.
That means we have the power and we get to say what we do with it and what it means to us.
As always, it comes down to the choices you make.
Not only in what you choose to spend your money on, but also how you choose think about yourself and money and what you choose to say to yourself inside your own mind about money and you.
This is my message to you now in this December crazy, and always in your life.
Aim to feel loved in your money choices.
Pause at every spending choice and ask yourself,
“How can I use my money now in a way that will leave me feeling loved, safe and proud of myself later?”
"If I loved myself, what would I choose to do now?"
