People are often fascinated by (or terrified of) therapists.
You should see how people run from me at parties sometimes when they hear what I do. “You’re probably analysing me now, right? Oh look, there’s someone I have to say hello to!”
You think ‘therapist’ and you imagine this super-human person, who seems all-knowing, all-seeing, endlessly kind, compassionate, understanding and wise…
Their family must be really lucky to have someone like this. They must really have their sh*t together.
They’re probably always loving to their partner, never shout at their kids, are excellent with their finances, eat well, exercise and meditate regularly, have good self-esteem, set good boundaries, always speak kindly to themselves, never doubt themselves, always remain calm and centered…
Oh, and obviously, they are always good. They never judge or criticize or think mean thoughts about others.
Sigh. Maybe one day you can be like that…
Now, I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, truly I am...
And I know this might be shocking...
But...
Therapists are human too.
Also doctors, nurses, social workers, healers… all human.
I’m sorry to shatter the illusion.
But I must.
Because if you ARE a doctor or therapist or healer, this projection of perfection can be a bit scary.
If you know you really DON’T have your sh*t together, if you’re always struggling with money or your weight, or you lost it at your kids last night and you’re on the verge of divorce and then you have to seem ‘perfect’, it can get a little much.
Also, another thing is, the type of personality who is drawn to a healing profession is usually a type who demands very high standards from themselves already. So many doctors and therapists also expect themselves to be perfect. Being ‘just human’, and having human troubles can feel shameful and like failure.
It’s not really fair to expect a certain group of people to not be human.
It’s not their fault they are so darn good at looking after everyone and have endless compassion, wisdom and kindness for other people.
BUT as a healer, you have to be as good at looking after yourself with endless compassion and wisdom as you are at looking after others.
And you must have permission to be human WHILE being good at helping others survive and thrive.
Don't you find that it's the healers who accept and lovingly embrace their humanness who do the best healing work?
PS. These past six months I’ve been journeying with an incredible group of therapists, doctors, social workers, coaches, counselors and healers. I'm completely in love with them all.
We have been learning how to make self-loving decisions in every area of life so that we can love ourselves AND be human AND help others better.
The transformations have been deep and exciting and liberating.
“I thought this was something that could never change, but now it's shifting because I’m actually finally doing what I want to do and saying what I need to say and it’s making everything better. I feel like I’ve gotten myself back.”
Everything begins to change when you make decisions by asking,
“If I loved myself, what would I choose to do now?”
When you live life by following your inner truth, everything gets better. Relationships become more real and satisfying, parenting feels less overwhelming, food, money and health all become easier, your confidence and self-talk improve…
I’m opening registration for this year's life-changing course for healthcare practitioners in a week's time.
If you want a taste of what we learn, sign up now for the free introductory training.
The free training is a short stand-alone course where I’ll take you through my ALLOW YOU decision-making process which at the core of everything I do. After this short course, you can use the tools and change anything in your life that you want to change.
Don’t miss it.
It’s free. I mean it. No catch.
It will be available for only ten days from 18 – 28 February 2022.
Then registration for the full course will close for this year.
Sign up for the free training here.
And please share this with any doctor, therapist, healer-person you know? You’ll be giving them an important gift.
