What will it take for you to choose to love yourself?
Have you ever asked yourself that question?
I watch people make choices every day.
And I witness the results of their choices.
I watch their process with love.
So much love.
Because I know.
Sometimes it’s not easy to make the self-loving choice.
I have watched people I love dearly, slowly kill themselves with their choices.
With unhealthy relationships, smoking, food, drinking, overworking…
I’ve watched people I love hobble and sabotage themselves with self-doubt, vicious self-criticism, insecurity, impulsive behaviours…
I see these things in myself too.
The other day I sat with two beloveds.
The one dear friend has been going through lots of scary change and yet at the sane time, many good things keep happening to show him he’s being looked after.
I pointed this lovely fact out to him.
He grimaced and replied, ‘I know, that sort of thing isn’t really supposed to happen to a guy like me’. Like he had to apologise for the good things! Then he started to justify the good things that have happened as though he needed to explain why it was maybe ok.
It was so crazy to see someone do that.
And THEN two minutes later, I complimented my other sweet friend about something he’s really gifted at and he denied that it was true. Essentially he fought off the compliment.
I sat opposite these two beloveds and gaped.
To make sure I wasn’t going insane, I asked them if they could see each other doing it. They both said yes. Then they laughed at my horror of their self-destructive behaviour.
I really felt so sad.
Later in my meditation, I asked, ‘Why is this in my reality? Why was I shown that? And why did it affect me so?’
Because you know, as they say, ‘If you spot it, you’ve got it.’
And then I saw it!
They were mirroring exactly what I’m doing in certain areas of my life!
I also apologise for my good things and fight off positive feedback at times.
Well!
I mean!
Looking at them, I couldn’t fathom WHY they would do these ridiculous things.
But from the inside, I totally get it.
I’m doing it too.
It may sound weird - and it is actually strange - but we often find it scary and difficult to allow ourselves to be successful and healthy and loved and abundant…
We have all sorts of stories in our heads about why we can’t have all that.
So if you are struggling with self-destructive behaviours at the moment…
Think of someone you love doing what you’re doing.
It can help to look at it from the outside.
Imagine how you’d feel if you watched them make the choices you’re making…
Speaking to themselves the way you speak to yourself…
And then turn that loving attention to yourself and say those things to your own
precious self.
You deserve kindness.
You deserve good things.
Just because you exist.
If you want my help to give yourself constant loving attention, in your eating, your health, your money, your parenting…
Consider doing my guided book journey The Self-Love Choice.
It’s like a year’s worth of self-love therapy.
It will help you to focus on yourself lovingly and take the small moment-by-moment actions you need to get you out of the cycle you’re trapped in.
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If you loved yourself, how would you turn towards self-love now?
