Isn't that the worst feeling?

That moment when you realise you knew the other choice would have been better but you didn't choose it...

Knowing you didn't listen to yourself...

Even if it's a simple thing, like you didn't take the turn-off when you had the feeling you should and now you're stuck in gridlocked traffic.

But if your bad choice is something you have to live with for the rest of your life,

like marrying that person even though you had niggling doubts...

walking down that dark alley...

saying no to that opportunity...

saying yes to that repulsive invitation...

When you are angry with yourself for not being brave, or alert enough, to follow your inner truth...

That regret can weigh you down and block your flow.

I was really suprised when people who did my workshops started to say things like,

"Now that I'm using ALLOW YOU method, I don't feel regret about my choices anymore."

I assumed it was because they were happier with the outcomes of their choices.

Like, "Oh yay, they're listening to themselves so their choices work out better."

But apparently it wasn't that.

Apparently the lack of regret applied to the choices that did not turn out well!

That made me think.

What I realised is that there's an important ingredient to making decisions, which seems to be a kind of inoculation against regret.

And that is...

Making the choice that your heart calls you to do in that moment.

Why does it protect you from regret later?

Because, no matter what the outcome of your choice is - if it's wonderful or terrible - you know that you did the best you could with the information you had at the time.

Regret so often hinges on the moment you KNOW you turned away from your inner truth.

You chose something that was not what you really wanted...

You ignored that little voice...

It hurts when we do that.

So don't do that anymore, ok?

Ask your heart what it wants and follow your inner guidance.

Just use the Love Question.

If I loved myself, what would I choose to do now?