You've heard me say this before.
It's the core of what I teach.
At the centre of any choice you face, there is a sacred moment.
In that moment, you either turn towards your inner truth, your preference, what feels right to you - or you turn away from it.
The direction in which you turn in that sacred moment of choice defines everything.
Here's the thing.
It's deep.
Are you ready?
When you face a choice, and you get a sense of what you prefer, and you choose the thing your heart is calling for, you are choosing LIFE.
You're choosing to live.
Why?
We tend to feel more drawn to whichever thing will meet our needs more.
It's a biological thing. Our system makes us prefer those things because the more our needs are met, the more the organism that is us thrives.
The less our needs are met, the harder life becomes for us to manage, and our organism is less likely to survive that way.
When you turn towards your inner preference in a moment of choice, you are making sure your needs are met and increasing your organism’s chances of thriving.
The subliminal message is that you have the right to exist.
That you matter.
That you are important.
This is no small thing. In itself, this message meets some very fundamental needs: safety, survival, validation, love, to matter, to be seen ...
Now let’s think for a moment what it means when you turn away from what you prefer.
That’s the opposite message: you are telling yourself that you do not matter, that your needs will not be met, that you are not important.
In nature, if you do not meet an organism’s needs, what eventually happens to it?
Yes, it dies.
When you turn away from choosing what will help your organism survive and thrive, you are essentially telling yourself that you do not have permission to exist.
Your needs, thoughts, and expressions do not matter in the world.
You may as well be gone.
To put it crudely, when you don’t choose the thing you actually want to choose, you are killing yourself off.
If you do this consistently, you will eventually experience anger, anxiety, and depression.
These are normal reactions to loss and grief—the grief of losing yourself.
I see it over and over in my therapy practice.
So, do you see now, that in each sacred moment of choice, you’re not just asking yourself if you should rest now or go to the gym?
You’re asking yourself if you matter.
You’re asking whether you have the right to have your needs met.
You’re asking if you have permission to exist.
So, will you begin to more consciously choose life for yourself in your choices, or will you continue to kill yourself off?
If you loved yourself, what would you choose to do now?
