Did you know that your bad feelings guide you back to love?
I once heard someone describe feelings like nerves: they respond with pain or pleasure to tell us if something is good for us or not.
If you put your hand near fire, your nerves tell you very quickly to move it away.
Strangely, instead of moving away when our feelings are screaming that something doesn’t feel good, we often keep doing what we’re doing, wondering what’s wrong with us that we’re still feeling bad.
We keep worrying about that thing...
We continue the argument...
We still eat the second serving...
We carry on watching the news...
Then we complain that we feel anxious and depressed.
Start listening to your feelings the way you instinctively listen to your nerves.
When you don’t feel good, be glad you’ve noticed and ask yourself, “If I loved myself, what would I choose to do now?”
The anxiety / fear / stress / depression feeling is telling you, “This is not my Truth. It’s not meeting my needs.”
Sometimes it’s whatever you’re doing, or not doing, that isn’t meeting your needs.
Sometimes what you’re doing is fine and the feeling is telling you that the way you’re doing it isn’t working for you.
Other times, the bad feeling is because you’re entertaining thoughts that are not
serving you.
Don’t judge yourself when you feel bad; it doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you.
It’s just a signpost.
When you feel an unpleasant feeling, stop and ask for help from your own inner wisdom.
Ask for love.
Take your feelings seriously by listening and following your inner Truth’s instructions.
Figure out what will feel better and do that instead.
Tiny step by tiny step, your feelings will guide you toward satisfying your unique deeper needs and values, and you’ll start feeling better.
Here is a handy guide for you to use:
• If something feels bad, move away. Like with your hand near the fire, the pain is not normal. The pain is telling you, “This isn't meeting my need” and the rational response is to stop doing what is causing you pain.
• If it feels good, stick with it until it doesn’t feel good anymore.
If you loved yourself, what would you say to yourself about your bad feelings now?
