Isn't that just a really horrible question?
It goes right to the heart of so many of our insecurities.
Am I worthy of love?
The thing is, we usually judge our worth according to how other people respond to us.
But how come they get to say??
If you also think the 'stamp of approval' comes from outside of yourself, please know this.
You are stamping yourself worthy or unworthy of love with every choice you make.
Your choices make you feel good or bad but you probably don't realise that it's connected to your inner sense of worth.
This is how it works:
Any time you do something that makes you feel bad later, it’s likely because you didn’t fully love yourself in the moment you chose to do it.
You didn't fully give yourself permission to exist.
Not loving yourself is both the cause and the effect of our choices.
But then we keep doing it and thinking the outer world is showing us we aren't worth loving.
If you know something gives you a tummy ache but you keep doing it and you keep getting tummy aches, is that really a surprise?
“How can I stop getting tummy aches?” you want to know.
The common-sense reply is: “Stop doing the thing that causes tummy aches.”
What does common sense have to say when you ask,
“How can I stop feeling bad?”
It says, “Stop doing things that make you feel bad and start doing things that make you feel good.”
In other words:
LOVE YOURSELF.
If you don’t know what loving yourself means for you, just keep reading this weekly letter and my books and join my courses.
You’ll understand and experience it more as you learn to make new choices that validate your worthiness of love.
“How can I love myself if my parents didn’t love me?” you want to know.
“How can I love myself if I shout at my kids?”
“How can I love myself if I’ve perpetrated a crime?”
“How can I love myself if I don’t have a partner
If I’m a failure at business
If my skin’s this color
If I let people down
If I hurt others
If my penis is too small
If my breasts are droopy
If I’m too fat
If I’m not clever
If I’m not normal/
If my best is not enough ...?”
I ask you this,
“How can you not?”
Of COURSE you are worthy of love!
Duh.
Now you just need to work on how to.
If you loved yourself, what would you say to yourself now?
