Subject: Have you tried "inner child" listening? đŸ„°

 

Hi Friend,


A very happy full moon to you!


How was your week been?

Have you observed the letting go happening around us, leaf 🍃 by leaf? 🍂


Take a moment to a long inhale breath and a long exhale.


Do you ever connect with the little kid within you?


You know the little smiley, bubbly, jumping-in-puddles and making a mess little human that you once were?


If you close your eyes for a minute and think of a time when you were a kid when something happened that filled you in WONDER and awe?

or maybe you can recall something that was really DELICIOUS?


"Inner child" as a concept in healing, psychology and popular culture is referred to your earliest sense of self.


"Inner child healing/therapy/work" is an effective (in my own experience and in my work with clients) process of working through unresolved childhood trauma, emotional disruptions and painful life events.


Gabor Mate with his new book the "myth of normal" is bringing "inner child healing" into the mainstream medical conversation as an effective (well, detrimental) process to recover from abuse, neglect and addiction.


Connecting with my own inner child has been fundamental to

  • soothing my nervous system,

  • programming new neural pathways in my brain,

  • deepening my self care and

  • manifesting more love and adventure in my life.

Many years ago, I was going through a really hard time.
I am thankful for the experience because I learned pain can become the catalyst for freedom.

BUT in the thick of it,
I just wanted it to end or ideally,
to not to be experiencing it at all.

👉 I couldn’t change the reality, I could only change my experience of it.

And so, I prioritised time for my deeper healing, specifically inner child healing.

I needed to spend some time learning to listen to “Lilla h” - big heart little Heidi, aged 5.
I committed to a meeting to connect with Lila h every Friday at 11am for a month.


And so on a Friday in September at 11am, I sat at the kitchen table with Lilla h and to her with a sigh,
“I hope you’re ready, life is shit sometimes.”

Nothing got past Lilla Heidi. She looked at me with those

« I know the answer » eyes and said in « Lilla Heidi Boss » tone:
“yeah
and
why are you are playing with such people?”

Then, I said

“Well... there are some bad people out there who do bad things.”

Lilla h: “you mean the baddies”.

H: “Yes the baddies."
« And you know, your heart is going to hurt, people you love are going to get hurt and there’s nothing you can do about it.”

Lilla h: “yes you can ~ you can always be loving.”
She added:
“Baddies obviously don’t have animals to love (duhhh!!) - they must be having a terrible time. Sometimes they win but I don’t want to live like them, they’re mean and that’s not winning.
We need to care for each other more like the Care Bears. It’s ok to be loving to the baddies too. I like loving the best.”
“I know, let’s go outside and adventure, I found the best place to...”.

That struck me and stuck with me.

👉I CAN ALWAYS BE LOVING.

My inner child's most natural state was « to be loving ».

So me & Lilla h started to be more loving to

  • all the parts of me,

  • my family,

  • my communities,

  • my environment,

  • all animals,

  • this blue planet
    and even,

  • to the baddies.



For homework this week,


I invite to set a time (really, put it in your calendar: it could be Friday @11) where for 30 minutes, you're going to sit and invite your little inner one to talk to you.


If you can, keep the conversation with your little one light - by asking her/him:

what's her/him favorite activity to do?

what's her/him favorite colour/food/animal?


It's ok if she/he is shy at first or maybe they are angry or sad.

If it becomes too difficult or emotional, I would recommend doing it with a therapist/psychologist or a booking a private session with myself.


And then, most important, whether you can hear your inner child or not, imagine little you in your mind and give your little one a BIG HUGE HUG. Hug your little one for as long as you can - and repeat this hug at the same time each week for a month.


This little practice was fundamental for me in

  • soothing my nervous system,

  • programming new neural pathways in my brain,

  • deepening my self care and

  • manifesting more love and adventure in my life.



There's one more question left to ask ~>
what's the best that can happen?


Sending love,

Heidi


H E I D I L I D H O L M

love life, live light; from the inside out

heidilidholm.com

 

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