Here's 4 steps for overcoming the obstacles of change so that you can win your future!
1. Be cautious of the word "Again"
Oh no I don't want this hurt again.
Oh no I don't want this to fall apart again.
Oh no I don't want [insert tragic] experience again.
Your bouncer brain wants to keep you safe so it will quickly fire up the cellular memory bank of
"oh I've been here before" "oh I know how this goes".
You're not the same version of yourself 1, 3, 4, 10 years ago.
Yes something painful may have happened but thinking it will just happen again is projecting your past into your future.
Move beyond the projections from the past to focusing on the evidence of the present and most recent present.
What's working and going right?
Gather evidence of experiences, interactions and conversations that are encouraging, inspiring, supportive and productive.
Evidence for the future is in the now - it needs to be seen, heard and felt to break the cycle of "again" dragging you down.
What's the outcome you really want?
What's been happening lately that evidently supports this.
Drishti is the sanskrit term used to softly maintain a focused gaze on a particular point in front of you. "Where our eyes are directed our attention follows".
When you know what you're moving towards, you can start to allow visions, feelings and plans for the future pull you towards the future, rather than project limitations from the past.
In order to support the vision you have for yourself, a conscious effort is needed to self-manage.
It's important to start taking small steps towards the greater vision you have for yourself. As soon as the small steps become consistent and effective habits and patterns, you'll be on the fast track to success. Taking care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally will help you stay focused on the outcome you desire. It's also important to give yourself grace when setbacks occur. Learning from mistakes is like fertiliser for growth.
This is part that kinda sucks. After all the effort to overcome the fears, review evidence, refocus and take action, then, you have no choice but to to take the leap of faith and let the f*ck go.
You have to trust, trust trust. You have to trust yourself. Have faith that your actions will lead you to the future you desire. It's that delightful delicate balance of cultivating self-belief and confidence, while also remaining humble and open to letting the experience unfold.
You can never be too sure what new opportunities await when you take a leap of faith!
