Hi beautiful, I read this brilliant quote last week which resonated with me: "Frustration is a function of our expectations.
Expectations often function as a social mirror rather than our own values and priorities"
When I get frustrated with myself for not being as fit/funny/organised/successful/creative/on-it as I think I should be, it's normally because I'm comparing myself to where I think I "should be" and holding myself to a goal which I set in the PAST.
Breakthrough coming through... there's no way that I'm going to become less frustrated by looking back!
Generally when I'm frustrated, I am holding myself to an unrealistic goal or expectation that could not be achieved from my current circumstances. Why can't I achieve it now? Because life evolves, things changes. Certain events, opportunities, lessons, people come into your life... and all of a sudden you could find yourself on a totally different trajectory. That's ok. Start where you are, with what you have.
Now, I'm understanding that frustration, as with chasing love, is a form self abandonment. When I'm frustrated with myself I'm basically telling myself I'm "not good enough". Therefore, when I'm frustrated with myself, I'm seeking external validation, therefore, self love is absent.
That's not good. I want to love myself.
I'm in pursuit of learning how to love myself deeper, clearer, stronger, and for longer!
What I'm discovering is that my power, my validation, my pride are MY OWN.
My time is MY OWN.
My love is MY OWN. My creative power is MY OWN. My sensuality is MY OWN. My body is MY OWN. My happiness is MY OWN. Nobody can give this to me and no one can take it from me.
I get to try and trial and error and experience as many different relationships, people, places as I want. In my own time. Plus, I can revisit the same lessons, the same work, the same relationships as many times as I wish. Everything is my learning, my experience. Social and societal pressures and mirrors be gone!!
I'm also understanding more and more that I don't owe any of the above to anyone.
Now for the technique... when I do get frustrated I bring myself back to the present so that I can revaluate what's happening and make a new plan to take my power back.
Here's how I turn frustration into self empowerment, by asking myself:
1. What work and which relationships and daily practices are nurturing and loving?
2. What's going RIGHT in this situation?
3. What CAN go RIGHT in this situation?
4. What are the FACTS?
5. What about the situation would I like to be different?
6. Do I have control/influence to create a different outcome?
7. What are some small habits that I could begin to generate (over time) this new outcome?
Imagine feeling empowered instead of frustrated? Imagine staying in the now and reaching for bravery and responsibility to turn your situation around regardless of the external social or societal pressures you may feel about your frustration?
Remember... what's the best that can happen?
To supporting you, Heidi
S A T ~ C H I T ~ A N A N D A
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I AM ROOTED
I AM CONNECTED
I AM SENSUAL
I AM CREATIVE
I AM CENTERED
I AM CONFIDENT
I AM LOVING
I AM LOVED
I AM GIVING
I AM RECEIVING
I AM SPEAKING
I AM EXPRESSING
I AM SEEING
I AM KNOWING
I AM LIGHT
I AM THE LIGHT OF LOVE
I AM HOME
I AM THAT I AM | 
