Hi Friend,

"I haven't been fathered", Paul* said.

"Of course, I have a dad but he wasn't a father to me."

It's an honour to get to hold space for clients (*Paul is not his real name) to share raw truths and realisations about what they need to

• admit and to see,

• process emotionally and spiritually - crying, anger, disappointment, shame, guilt

• release from their body

• restore within themselves

• actions to do to make this new integration into a new way of life
  

Today as we celebrate the Fathers in our lives - I invite you - - to celebrate the father in you. 

What are some of the qualities of an awesome Father?

Fathers are the "man of the house";

they are

• the stronghold, the patience and the perseverance,

• reliable,

• the builders,

• the listeners, they oversee the bigger picture like an eagle,

• the role models for respect, consistency & discipline,

• the strong boundaries and the protectors.

In his true (spiritual/innate) power, the father takes positive ownership over each member of the family - meaning that he positively and actively seeks to provide safety and provisions (emotionally and physically) for the wellbeing of all.

We all need to nurture the father within us in order to feel balanced.

We all need to nurture the father within us to further projects and skills and to build something last and enduring.

1. The 1 daily WBNN (WELL-BEING NON-NEGOTIABLE)
Decide a period of time - 5 days, 7 days, 21 days, 1 month and decide 1 daily new wellbeing-building habit that's NON-NEGOTIABLE, which you will do each day no matter what

Make it 1 singular "small" habit - for example:

a cold shower

1 yoga pose

30 sit ups

30 squats

foot bath

reading 1 page of book

getting up at a certain time

going to bed at a certain time

2 minutes silent meditation

=>  lThe purpose here is to build resilience and trust within yourself and to create a new boundary with yourself and everyone else that this task is important.

2. Positive Ownership
Your best interests are inseparable from my best interests. Therefore, I have to find ways to maintain your best interests (your wellbeing).

How can you take positive ownership of yourself?

Write down a need that you have - what are all the needs, tasks, environment for this need to flourish. Own the need. Prioritise the development and progression of this need.

3. Delegate
Men are not exactly celebrated for asking for advice or asking for help - but what they are good at it knowing what they are good at and offloading what someone else is better at - or what gives them more time in return - to someone else.

What's one thing that you could delegate to someone else?

Give it a try, honour the father in you... because when you do, you will expand your worth and manifest in ways that will surprise you!

There's one more question left to ask ~>
what's the best that can happen?

Sending love,

Heidi

H E I D I L I D H O L M

love life, live love; from the inside out

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