Hello, Friend. Welcome to the first edition of the Course Essentials Newsletter! What does this mean? Honestly, all it means is that you'll continue to receive blog articles I've published to my site AND you'll receive links to articles that I've published elsewhere (like today). All in an email with a fancy new name (that relates to my new website, of course).
Today is all about apologizing. And I have a question for you. How well do you apologize? Before you answer, take a moment to think about it.
If you're being honest, you'll likely realize that you don't apologize well at all. Like my boys. They REALLY don't know how to apologize. It's something we've been working on lately.
And because I've been working on this with my boys, I've noticed a few things about why most of us don't apologize like we mean it.
First, most people apologize because they have to. Either to get themselves out of trouble or because it's the "right thing to do" (but not necessarily what they want to do). That's not exactly the right mindset to have when apologizing - if you want to be sincere, that is.
Second, we tend to allow ourselves to get wrapped up in shame, embarrassment, and a host of other emotions when apologizing. And, although it's good to feel remorse, it's not helpful to let our feelings overtake us. Because that often leads to a bad apology. Something like:
"Sorry, ok? Can't you move on?"
But what if we learned to use our emotions to our benefit? In a way that helps us craft a sincere apology. By tapping into our values and answering some questions about why we feel so badly, we can learn to use our answers as a starting point to a good apology.
And because we're realigning ourselves with our values (by giving the apology), it becomes easier to give. For more about this, and some other keys to a good apology, go to a new article I just published at YourTango.
Follow
the steps outlined in the article and you'll start to apologize with
sincerity - and won't feel so bad about giving the apology either.
Although
you will still feel remorse (because, let's face it, you should), this information will help you learn to
apologize more effectively and will help you get more comfortable
apologizing.
So, click here to read how to apologize like you mean it.
And,
if you enjoy the article and feel it would be helpful to others, please
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XO,
Heather
P.S., know anyone who could use some pointers on how to give an effective and sincere apology? Forward this email or share my article at YourTango with them via email (just click on the email icon at the top right of the article).
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