Friend, honestly, when I’m working with a married couple and they define themselves as “best friends” that’s a HUGE red flag for me, as a Feng Shui consultant.
Here’s the honest truth: marriage is not a friendship. It’s a partnership.
What’s the difference between a friendship and a partnership, you ask?
Well, the contract, of course. In a partnership there’s a contract that states your common goals and aspirations – and also the rules for dissolving the relationship, if it ever came to that.
In a friendship there are no rules and the expectations are low. From a friend you can get loyalty, but not commitment. A friend will give you a shoulder to cry on, but has not made a vow to be with your “for better or for worse.”
Friendships dissolve much more easily than partnerships. And there are no legal consequences from not being friends with someone any more.
If you think of your spouse as a best friend, you’re basically demoting him/her to the position of “friend with benefits” instead of a proper partner. But maybe you think of your spouse as a friend with no benefits, because the passion has died.
By passion, I don’t just mean physical love, but the magnetic attraction that keeps a couple interested in each other.
Your relationship with your spouse is a partnership.
Exactly what kind of partnership will be revealed when I teach this class on understanding love and marriage next week.
Join me on Thursday, February 24th at 4 PM Eastern Time (1 PM Pacific Time, 9 PM London, 11 PM Romania, 8 AM Australia). Pre-register or learn more here. The early bird price expires next Wednesday.
