Toxic Words – Toni M. Babcock
Did you ever get a sick feeling listening to people attack one another online? If you grew up in a home full of fighting like I did as a child, you might be super-sensitive to this, but most Christians are discerning enough to know when the words and the spirit behind those words become toxic and detrimental to all.
Paul wrote in his letter to Timothy “not to fight about words, this is useless and leads to the ruin of those who listen,” (2 Timothy 2:14 CSB). The truth is words affect our testimony for Jesus. So it’s important to discern whether it’s about us getting our comeuppance with an opponent, or about being mindful of what we say to the gain of all who listen.
Paul also wrote “Act wisely toward outsiders, making the most of the time. Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you should answer each person,” (Colossians 4:5-6 CSB). So we should be asking ourselves when settling any dispute—am I mud-slinging with words or am I sprinkling the savor of Christ?
Paul wrote to the Thessalonians, “See to it that no one repays evil for evil to anyone, but always pursue what is good for one another and for all,” (1 Thessalonians 5:15 CSB). He also wrote, “The Lord’s servant must not quarrel, but must be gentle to everyone, able to teach, and patient,” (2 Timothy 2:24 CSB). He reminds God’s people “to slander no one, to avoid fighting, and to be kind, always showing gentleness to all people,” (Titus 3:2 CSB).
Paul’s words for the church couldn’t be more relevant than in this day and age.
Lord, put a watch on what we say. Help us set the example. Give us wisdom and light before commenting on anything, and guide our hearts and minds to lift up, and draw others to You.
Toni is author of The Stone Writer, Christian Fiction for Young Readers and Teens, and Reflections from the Heart, in Light of the Gospel of Jesus. Contact
