| Hi Friend,
Everybody's always dealing with something. From where you're standing things may look great, worse or somewhere in between for other people and other situations. It usually depends on what lenses you're looking through each moment and that often depends on how you're feeling at that given time. The grass may appear or even be greener on someone else's lawn or the Seaweed may appear or even be greener in someone else's ocean (to paraphrase the Little Mermaid), but your current state affects how you perceive what you see.
Remember to keep this in mind as you go through life and through different states. When you're training, exercising and prioritizing your self-care on the regular your lenses are pretty darn rosy and most anything is possible. When you feel beat up from your training, aren't sleeping well, are burning the candle at both ends, choosing foods & drinks that taste good in the moment but aren't good for you later or are simply imbalanced with your work + rest, your lenses get colored a stormy gray and all you see are problems.
The grass isn't necessarily greener it's just different. These two different states: rosy & possible vs. gray & problems affect what you see, perceive and predict. When you feel yourself looking up and experiencing discontentment, remember that the people and situations you see are being portrayed by your current state and also that those people and situations go through similar things. And the opposite is also true. When you feel yourself looking down and experiencing contempt with other people and situations, remember too that your current state affects how you see, perceive and predict and that those people and situations go through similar things.
I really liked that statement because it's true and I hadn't heard it before. When you go through different stages and phases in life, especially the hard one's, you may feel all alone and like everyone has it better, but that might not always or fully be true. When Vivi isn't feeling well and being her normal self, we sometimes find ourselves wondering why this is so hard or how are we going to make it through this. And then when we talk with other people (especially pre-school parents) and share our experiences, we learn that everyone is dealing with something and we get reminded that the grass isn't necessarily greener, it's just different.
Valentine's Day! Keep this all in mind today. Valentine's day isn't always or all of the time, the rosy Hallmark Holiday it gets perceived to be. Many countries don't even celebrate it. It's outside of many people's values. And not everyone has a Valentine all the time. Some people love Valentine's Day, some people don't. Some people are in the middle.
Either way, whether you give roses, get roses or are indifferent to roses, if you want to look through rosy lenses and see what's possible, more often than not, then schedule time for self-care, show up, do the best you can in that given moment and then do it again the next day. Self-care is all encompassing, so some days are sweat fests, some days are gentle, some days are intense and some days are calm. All can make you feel good in the moment (sometimes a different meaning of what good feels like), but not always and good later, but not always. Over the long run however, you'll trend in the good direction where it's rosy and possible.
Be cool,
Coach Mike
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