The personal development world (and our society in general) is full of people espousing the benefits of living your truth.
The problem is that your truth isn’t THE truth (something many people seem to forget).
Your experiences, beliefs and values make you who you are; they shape how you view the world and the people within it.
But they aren’t truths (they are perceptions).
Your reality isn’t anyone else’s reality. And thinking it is - or should be - can:
Make you less curious about (and more judgmental of) other people.
Close your mind off to alternative viewpoints.
Stunt your ability learn from the wisdom of others.
This is dangerous - for you and for society - because it triggers your base instincts (tribalism, which is all about fear).
And it is what can lead people to have zero compassion for those who “think” differently. [We humans don’t act rationally when steeped in fear.]
You might be thinking...
I’m just one person. I can’t change society. I have zero control.
But you do have control over you, Friend.
Be a healthy model for others to follow.
Get curious about other people. Aim to understand their values and experiences, and how both shape their beliefs.
Human beings have a need to belong. They want people to get them.
Once they feel they belong, they will see you in a better light too (even reciprocate).
That is when good things can start to happen.
XO,
Heather
P.S. I’m taking a much-needed break from the podcast yet have much on my mind (be prepared to hear more thoughts like this one in the coming weeks).
P.P.S. Want an actual truth to leave with today (that might just surprise you)? Most stress isn’t caused by other people or external events/circumstances.
Learn the real truth about what causes stress in this early episode of the Life & Law Podcast (that's especially applicable to lawyers but will help anyone understand stress better).
