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| | | We all know that cheetah's are suuuuuuper fast, agile, and can rapidly change direction. And these are all important in today's world, yes?
But that's not what you can learn from the cheetah... because you're probably already focused (a lot!) on all three of these things.
What you can learn from the cheetah is to rest + give yourself a break.
Like the cheetah, you can't go fast all the time or be perfect either. And perfectionism is the opposite of giving yourself a break (I coach around perfectionism so often these days that I'm beginning to think it's the #1 character trait of high-achievers).
If the cheetah didn't give itself time to rest or take breaks, they'd burn out. And so will you, Friend.
Today, I'm asking you to do 2 important things - which happens to break a longstanding online marketing rule, so hopefully this works ;-).
#1: Join the Simplify Self-Care Challenge
7 days. 7 lessons. 7 effortless ways to reinvigorate your life.
Do you sometimes (or often!) struggle with self-care?
Perhaps you don't have the time or energy to fit it into your life. Maybe self-care feels hard (even stressful). If that's you, then the Simplify Self-Care Challenge is for you.
In this challenge, you'll: - Discover simple, quick ways to take impeccable care of yourself.
- Start making self-care a natural way of living so it doesn't feel so hard.
- Get my support through daily lessons and challenges + access to me via my Facebook group and in a final LIVE Q&A Session.
In just 7 days, you'll feel calmer, empowered, more self-confident, and more in control of your life. Who wouldn't want that?
We get started next Monday (September 9th), so if you haven't yet joined do it now!
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#2: Read How to Not Stop Feeling Good Enough at Work Through Courage
I'm excited to announce that Positively Positive has recently published a new article that I wrote about the relationship between perfectionism and not feeling good enough (and how to combat this common problem)...
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Do you ever find yourself thinking that you’re not smart enough and can’t believe you’ve made it as far as you have? Perhaps you worry that one day people will figure this out?
It’s called Imposter Syndrome (and is more common that you think).
Contrary to what most people thought, that was me for much of my legal career.
I started out like any other baby lawyer. Nervous yet confident in my abilities. Unfortunately, I soon learned that law school didn’t teach me how to practice law (just how to think like a lawyer).
I remember my first few months of putting my all into documents and research projects that I barely understood… only to get my work back with so many red marks that you couldn’t tell what had been preserved.
And I also recall how dumb I felt as I attended conference calls to discuss issues that were completely over my head (while thinking I’d NEVER be as smart as anyone else on the call).
It felt like everyone was smarter than me, which quickly translated into me not measuring up.
What did I do about it? I doubled down and expected even more of myself. I started to require perfection and assumed that I just needed to work harder than everyone else.
But the result was that I never felt good enough.
Lawyers don’t talk about their feelings (especially negative ones) – we’re too proud to admit that we feel inadequate. So, I suffered in silence and told myself that I’d finally believe in myself once it was clear that I was on track to make partner.
As I continued in my career, I did rebuild some of my confidence. Working hard resulted in real success, respect from others, and better pay (which was hard to ignore).
Yet there was always a whispering voice in the back of my head questioning whether I was smart enough, telling me that I’d been lucky, and warning that I’d one day be revealed as a fraud.
And then I finally did it. I made partner!
I was elated – not just that my hard work and all the time invested in my career had paid off, but also because this was proof that I should believe in myself. If others believed in me enough to make me partner, then I should too.
But human brains often don’t think rationally.
I soon discovered that just because other people had faith in me didn’t mean that I also had faith in myself. Not only did my voice not go away, it got louder and more consistent.
Like with any big promotion, becoming partner within a law firm brings with it more responsibility and new challenges. You’re expected to be a leader, build your own book of business, and be (or quickly become) an expert in your area. And there’s very little training on how to do all that.
I doubted my ability to build a book of business from scratch. And I didn’t see myself as a leader or an expert at anything.
My inner voice kept telling me that they’d made a mistake (and that they’d soon figure it out). But then something interesting happened…
I asked a fellow partner (who had previously been a mentor) his opinion on something I was struggling with. His response was that I was a hot-shot partner now and to figure it out on my own.
Truthfully, his response was out-of-bounds. Yet it hit every nerve in my body. In that moment, I KNEW that every fear I had about not being good enough and being a complete fraud was true.
But that only lasted for a few seconds because I realized that he was acting out of fear and self-doubt. He was under a lot of pressure and stress in that moment and his response had nothing to do with me at all!
That's when I realized that I wasn’t alone.
Other smart, capable people had the same worries and self-doubt.
This discovery made me curious. Who else suffered? Better yet, who didn’t… and why not?
I started observing people to figure this out. What I found was that there was a big difference in how people viewed – and dealt with – fear.
There were the perfectionists who feared failure and not being in control. Their perfectionism was fueled by their fears and doubts, while also causing them to feel like they’d never measure up. They were caught in a never-ending loop.
And there were the self-confident and courageous folks who accepted imperfection and were more comfortable with the idea of failing.
Although they didn’t enjoy or want to fail (and still held themselves to high standards), they had adopted a mentality that failure leads to growth and ultimately is necessary to succeed. It’s as if they got comfortable with their fears.
I needed to get comfortable with my fears, stop requiring perfection, and take control of my inner negative voice. And I figured out how to make that happen.
Notice that I’m not saying my fears were vanquished or that I got rid of my negative voice. Not only is it impossible to do that, but fears and negative thinking are sometimes good (they help you to be aware of potential pitfalls and to plan accordingly).
So, what did I do (and how can you too build self-confidence and control your inner negative voice so that you can stop feeling like you’re not good enough)?
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| | | | P.S. Self-Care is ultimately about self-respect and good self-care increases your self-confidence and self-worth. Join the Simplify Self-Care Challenge now and start feeling good about (even proud of) yourself.
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| | | About Heather
I help successful yet overwhelmed and unfulfilled professionals create fulfilling work that’s balanced with a real life... without sacrificing your success.
Here's the thing: you weren't born to rinse and repeat your life into oblivion. It's time to get clear, feel confident, and take control so that you can create success from the inside-out.
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