There's something you need to know about personal development, Friend.
Although bettering yourself has a positive ripple effect on others, there's a catch.
It's easy to become selfish (without realizing it). [It's happened to me.]
That time I was called out.
After my cancer journey, I felt like something needed to change (but had no idea what to do about it). After struggling for a couple of years, I finally hired a coach.
For the next 6 months, I happily worked with her believing that I was becoming a better version of myself.
Until the day my husband asked if I wanted to be married to him any longer.
That's when I realized that I had become so inward focused that I was neglecting the people I loved the most (and had been for months).
What the self-help experts know (yet don't like to admit).
When I told my coach what was happening, she told me that it's a common thing.
When working to develop yourself, it's easy to get caught up in the excitement of all the changes going on inside of you. To the point where you ignore those you love the most (without realizing it).
She felt like it's something to expect (and deal with when it happens).
Wait.... what????
Why accept this as a necessary part of the process? And why not warn me?
How to stay away from the selfish trap.
They key it so be aware of the danger so that you can guard against it.
Whenever working on yourself, be sure to continually ask yourself how your choices and actions (including what you choose not to do) affect other people.
This simple process will interject some relationship-saving honesty into your journey without slowing you down. [After all, part of personal development includes strengthening your relationships.]
Lucky for me, I have an understanding husband who was willing to work through things. My hope is to save you from falling into this trap in the first place.
XO,
Heather
P.S. Today is Part 6 of an 8-part series we started this month to help you finish the year strong. So, far we've covered: |
