Remember the Talking Heads iconic song Once In a Lifetime?
Same as it ever was. Same as it ever was. Letting the days go by. Same as it ever was.
If you sometimes (or often) feel that way, you're in good company (I see this a lot).
Sadly, many don't do anything about it. They're too busy, don't have the time or aren't sure where to even start.
Here's the thing: these are all BS excuses (said with love).
The problem is that your mind doesn't like how you feel whenever you contemplate making a big change. You go into what I call "What If" Mode. . . - What if it's not the right time?
- What if things get worse, not better?
- What if I fail?
- What if people think I'm crazy?
This brings on a host of vulnerable emotions (like fear, worry and anxiety) and uncomfortable thoughts about your beliefs (and how they might need to change to move forward).
And so you end up going on as you were, numbing yourself with food, television, social media, alcohol, busyness, or something else.
But here's the thing, Friend. . .
The foundation to getting unstuck is to get comfortable with the discomfort of vulnerable emotions and thoughts.
The good news is that you can train yourself to get comfortable with feeling this way.
Whenever you feel vulnerable thoughts and emotions, here's what to do:
- Identify exactly how you feel. Be specific.
- Ask what's behind your feelings. Go deep (and keep asking) until you've identified the thoughts behind what you feel.
And then let yourself sit with them (without doing anything about how you feel or what you've discovered).
This simple exercise will build inner strength and resilience. You'll discover that you're okay despite feeling these things.
And you'll also gain deeper self-awareness around what's going on inside of you.
THAT is empowering.
Have questions about how to do this? Hit reply and I'll get back to you.
And please do me a favor by forwarding this email to 3 people who could use some inspiration within their lives.
XO,
Heather
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