And I've heard a lot of the following from family and friends (heck, even within my own mind): - I don't have time for this.
- I shouldn't feel this way.
- I can't show my feelings to others.
This kind of thinking is common when difficult emotions come up. But although it's common to think these things, it's important to know that it's nonsense.
Here's the thing, Friend. . .
You have a right to your feelings. No matter what they are.
But that doesn't mean that you have an unfettered right to take them out on other people. And please note that showing others how you feel isn't the same thing as taking your feelings out on others.
The problem is that most people don't like facing these type of emotions (they're labeled as 'difficult' or 'negative' for a reason). That's why you end up burying them while pretending that you don't have time.
But that's only going to create a vicious cycle of beating yourself up, reacting more emotionally, and then beating yourself up again (rinse + repeat).
It's important to deal with your feelings appropriately so that they don't take control of you.
How? Two things: - Personify your inner voice (the one who's there to tell you about how bad it is that you feel this way in the first place). This will help you separate your feelings from WHO you are.
- Become a mind detective by asking questions. Get curious about what's behind your emotions, what they're teaching you and how you can live alongside them.
Learn more about how to do this in a video that I posted yesterday in my (free) Facebook group. [Note: if you're not yet a member, be sure to answer the questions to be admitted].
See you on the inside.
XO,
Heather
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