When I first started practicing law, I'd go into a panic about how to answer questions I didn't know the answers to. I stressed over how to buy myself time without looking stupid and figure out the right answer (on my own, of course).
Last week, I coached an incredibly successful client around letting go of trying to do it all and instead delegate some of the things on her plate.
And over the weekend, I discovered that my son Zachary had been procrastinating on his Boy Scout Eagle project because he was so overwhelmed by its enormity.
Do you see a theme, Friend?
Although I've highlighted 3 different people (at different stages of life), they're struggling with the same thing. . . - As a young lawyer, I (mistakenly) believed that I had to have all the answers and that asking for help was a weakness.
- My client had bought into the (wrong-headed) belief that getting help from others meant admitting that she's incapable of handling her job.
- And Zachary was worried that asking for help would make him look like he wasn't being independent (and was stupid).
Human beings have a difficult time asking for help. We fear that it somehow shows weakness.
But here's the thing: asking for help when truly needed isn't weak at all. It's courageous, builds mental strength and helps you to learn.
You're a human being, which means that you can't do it all and won't be amazing at everything. That's why there are other humans out there to help you.
Today I challenge you to ask yourself where you need help, identify who to get that help from and go ask for it.
And here's where I back this up and walk the talk (because I need your help too).
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XO,
Heather
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