Dear Katelyn,

I understand now by much of our work together that I seem to have a lot of male energy; that I was operating from male energy in my relationship much of the time. However, how do you balance that in a situation where your man is sick or temporarily or permanently disabled?

For example, you mentioned this past week that once you are in a committed relationship, if one of the two has something happen, the other one picks up the slack (those weren't your exact words, but something along those lines). So, he had an injury that made it hard for him to take care of himself....and in many ways he couldn't be the male energy... It would feel utterly wrong and immoral to just sit there or walk out, but how do you handle it so that the relationship stays in balance?

Can you clarify this for me? I am so confused!

Love,
Mina

AHH! What a great question! This is an advanced concept and I understand your confusion.

Have I given you the idea that being in your feminine energy means sitting around doing nothing and watching the world go by? Oh my goodness! I am so happy you brought this to my attention!

Being a powerful, authentic woman who lives in her feminine energy has little to do with sitting around eating Bon-Bons while your man slaves away. Or it might...if that is what is needed at the time, but that is such an extreme example. Can you see where extremes; that all or nothing mentality can be a dangerous way to think?

When you are married, in a real committed relationship and your man is injured or sick, of course you support him....BUT with conscious awareness not reckless abandon!

Many women, once they get started, just don’t know when to quit! It gets them in trouble. I mean this in the most loving ways, it seems like you were like this. It is not a black or white, all or nothing kind of thing. This is where practicing and using everything you’ve learned pays off!

Remember in my ebook, I showed you how to observe your man? The concepts I shared in my book combined with everything else I have taught you aren’t things to be learned and forgotten, tossed out for a newer, better tool, they are ALL important and should be integrated and used every single day!

Perhaps you might want to read it again. It contains so much great information. If you don’t have the download anymore, reach out to me and I'll get it to you! 

When the man is sick, help him out for sure. Watch and observe him for signs!

Does he become grumpy and argumentative? Does he get sullen and quiet? Does he withdraw? Is he happy to see you? Is he kind and loving?

What do you observe?

When he is exhibiting signs of the 4F’s as described in my ebook, he is telling you your vibe is not likely in balance with his....you are doing what you have always done and you are getting the result you have always gotten…..the result is, he pulls away.

When he is exhibiting signs of the 4R’s, he is telling you your vibe is in perfect alignment with his. He stays close.

I think we need to work on what it means to be fully awake and conscious and aware of your feelings, emotions, intentions and doings....where you know what you feel, and you know what to do about it without taking over the entire relationship bubble. (remember that from the book?)

There is an art and a science to recognizing where you are and where he is in the relationship. Energy ebbs and flows. Relationships ebb and flow. The only thing in the relationship you can control is you. It stands to reason that if you become acutely aware of you, you can consciously inspire your man in a positive way, instead of unconsciously inspiring him in a way that serves neither of you.

I hope this helps. Let’s talk!