This month, our character focus is Attentiveness. The operational definition of attentiveness is “showing the worth of a person by giving undivided concentration to his words and emotions.”

Every person is valuable to God. He created us in His image and redeemed us with the blood of His Own Son. God also shows our worth to Him by hearing us when we pray. Similarly, you can show others that they are valuable by being attentive when they speak. You give your undivided concentration to others by carefully considering their words, listening with understanding, and showing concern for their feelings. Being attentive is giving honor to others rather than drawing attention to yourself.

The opposite of attentiveness is unconcern. A person’s concern for himself can crowd out his regard for others. When he is busy pursuing what he wants to do, he may find it difficult to pause and listen to others. His mumbled responses indicate his disinterest as he pays little attention to the speaker’s words or facial expressions. He is easily distracted and unconcerned with remembering the details of what is being said. His self-focus deters people from sharing their hearts with him. He doesn’t notice when someone looks lonely or in need, so he is unable to look for ways to reach out and help.

If you find yourself looking out for your concerns and not for the concerns of others, remember that God cares for everyone! You have the opportunity to communicate His interest in them when you take time to listen.

Here are some free resources to help your family study attentiveness this month.