It's been several days since the weekend
and right about now is
when some
couples can notice old familiar
negative
"patterns of relating" showing up.
What do I mean by familiar "patterns
of relating"?
Basically what I mean is that one way or
another you have noticed
yourself
spiraling into Victim/Villain and you
may not know the exact
point where
that started to happen.
You may think that it is the
subject you
are talking about but I suggest that it's
not the subject you are
talking about...
it's HOW you are talking.
The tone you bring to each and every
conversation and sentence you use is
super
important.
What are you
putting out to your
partner that you are asking them
to get connected to?
In your most basic day to day
communication with your partner
it's important to
notice and ask
yourself, "am I clear or have I
added an extra piece to my speaking
that might confuse my message
with something else?"
When we don't care or are not
attentive it can be easy to "trigger"
the other person by the language
we use.
I promise you that if you have
spiraled into ViVi (my short
form
term for Victim/Villain) ...someone
(villain) has made
the "other" wrong
and that "other"
(victim) got
triggered (remember how the
amygdala gets activated) and
then
got defensive and away you both
went ... spiraled down the hole.
This first BONUS outlines exactly
HOW that happens in your speaking
and what you can do about it to
free yourselves from making your
partner
wrong in your everyday speaking.
Please, please, please...watch this
webinar that has been especially
prepared for you.
I promise that if you watch and
practice keeping your communication
clean you will reap amazing rewards.
As you "clean it up", you will like
Do me a favor... ask your partner
if
they saw this email and if they didn't
please ask them to check their "trash"
or "promo" file and remind them to
whitelist my email so they get the
next bonus coming at the end of the
weekend. Thanks.
Happy relating.
To Your Greatness!
Donna
