Hi Friend,
I'm trusting you had a look at the webinar, "Communication Catastrophes" and that you're seriously taking on the homework.
Some people listen to this webinar, get upset and resigned about
the poor quality of their communication and give up, saying to
themselves "this is just too difficult".
That's just a trick of the mind to keep you inside your status quo
and is NOT to be listened to. No matter how messy your communication,
you CAN clean it up.
Frustrated people ask me..."How? How can I get a handle on this...before I even realize it ...I've slipped up yet again!".
The way you do this is you keep practicing....daily! (Don't make it any more complicated that what it is.)
Remember I spoke about Victor Frankl who got "freedom" in a
concentration camp and how he realized that no matter what the
circumstances, at the end of the day he still had choice?
This is what Frankl said: "Between stimulus and response there is a
space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our
response lies our growth and our freedom."
I promise you with practice, before you even open your mouth you
will notice that the space between stimulus and response that Victor
Frankl was talking about will get bigger and will occur more frequently.
This is where you will notice that you have a choice. The question then becomes "what will you choose?".
You cannot do this by simply knowing about it...you HAVE to practice. IF you want to clean it up, that is.
So...have you been practicing? I sure hope so.
Your Second Communication Bonus:
Marshall Rosenberg (1924 - 2015) was a guy who grew up in a rough
Detroit neighborhood and became very interested in communication and
creating peaceful alternatives to the violence he witnessed.
He developed a famous model of communication called "Non Violent Communication" also known as "Compassionate Communication".
This model has been introduced to and used by American gangs, war
torn areas such as Rwanda, Nigeria, Sri Lanka, Sierra Leone and Northern
Ireland ...just to name a modest sampling.
My second communication BONUS for you called "It's An Inside Job:
Keep Your Communication Clean To Avoid Conflict" and is based on this
model.
This BONUS is a five part audio and each step has a worksheet that you can follow along with:
Introduction: A brief review of the physiology of the limbic system and how an "amygdala hijack" affects us.
Length: 10:58
Step 1 - Fact vs Interpretation: How to keep your communication grounded in reality & why you should do this.
Length: 24:10
Step 2: Feelings vs Thoughts: How to distinguish between the two as a gateway to empathy.
Length: 16:04
Step 3: Acknowledging Your Needs & Wants: Taking full responsibility for your own feelings and needs.
Length: 11:14
Step 4: Expressing Clear Clean Requests: How to make a request actionable thereby grounded in reality.
Length: 13:21
I know you are going to find this series enlightening. I'm
confident there will be a few things in here that you have not heard of
or thought quite like this before....enjoy!
To Your Greatness!
Donna
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