| Hi Friend,
Thanks for coming out to our info session on Monday ... it was great to have you there.
I sure hope you speak to your husband about the possibility of you two doing the retreat.
Everything you said last
night about the things your husband says to you, I can totally relate to ... and I get that as nasty as it seems to you...
(cuz it does get nasty when a couple has nothing else to work with)
... he is in truth confused about who you are as a woman AND it's not his fault.
No one tells men or mentors men about women.
What happens is a man uses his own logic and assessment to make sense of his wife and for the most part, gets it very wrong ... only because a husband thinks THAT differently from his wife.
Neither husband OR wife has ever been shown exactly how our differences play out in their communication and marriage.
A man will get bits and pieces of it from his wife but what happens is that more than anything he picks up on her disappointment and immediately shuts down or gets defensive.
And there you are as a woman ... once again ... not heard.
When we fully explain to a man (in a way that he really understands), he for the first time really gets what it is she wants AND he learns how to deliver it in a way that works for him AND the woman.
In our retreat, your husband would come to understand "why" you are so disappointed ...
... he'll get what you really want from him and he'll get ALL of the logic behind it so that he will stop making you wrong ... period!
Chances are there is some history between you two now and it's hard for both of you to hear through past hurts.
That's why it's important to have a neutral third person explain it all, with all emotion taken out of it, so that both partners can really hear and learn so that they can move forward.....immediately.
Both of you will get a new understanding and a new perspective.... which is really helpful when you are on your "last legs".
I'm very methodical and take 2 days to really explain all of the "ins and outs" so that BOTH of you will have a new and empowering perspective ... not just new knowledge but a new WAY to move forward .... right away.
The pain of separation and divorce is HUGE ... I know, I've been there and I also know that it can be totally avoided ... without therapy or counselling.
It's a fabulous and super
effective alternative to counselling and therapy and the reason that it's not talked about is because it's not well known and the stuff I teach is simply not taught to therapists in university... even though it's totally valid and works.
The reason why most men don't want to do anything is because they don;t want to "rehash" stuff from the past ...they are concerned they will get blamed or that some therapist will suggest that he should change and that makes him nervous because he doesnt know exactly what that would have to look like on his part.
So ... tell him you want to do something for your marriage before it's 100% too late.
Tell him that you want to understand your part ... tell him you don't want to change him...you just want it to be better for both of you and that you'd like to do the weekend.
Then send him to our website www.BetweenMenAndWomen.com and call me to get any questions or concerns addressed.
We have a retreat coming up on May 25-26th here in Calgary and we'd love to have you in it.
Thanks again for coming to our little info session on Monday.
To Your Greatness!
Donna Tosky Couple's Connection & Relationship Strategist 403 4559351
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