When you first got together,
you may not have had any
conflict.
You were both (probably)
SO attentive...... SO
caring .... on your best
behavior even.
What the heck happened to
THAT?
I don't mean to single you
two out, but I'll bet you're
not much different from the
100's of other couples I've
worked with that say they've
had this same experience ...
(if not a taste of it).
Pretty darned good in the
beginning ... maybe with
a few rough spots ...
... then likely something
happened (maybe kids
came, career change, death
of a parent) ... and bamm ...
... right before your eyes ...
... things started going South.
That was my experience
too ... and it's a real common
one.
I was in a marriage for 14
years that ended horribly ...
... and we were BOTH really
good people.
It wasn't our fault ... we didn't
know anything.
I didn't know ANY of what I
teach couples today.
It seemed like there were
a zillion things wrong with
our communication and
marriage when we ended
it.
One big thing I noticed
about us, especially toward
the end, was that it would
take nothing to get into a
fight about everything.
A wide sweeping global
statement, I know ... but no
kidding, that's how it was.
I see now that one of our
biggest problems was that
we had absolutely NO
structure or guidance on
how to handle conflict that
led to "Dumb Fights".
We could never get
anywhere and resentments
would just stack up ... one
on top of the other to the
point that it didn't even
matter what we were fighting
about ....
... it got so that we just
looked at each other and
the fight was on.
So if you're a couple that
deals with this, as I did, I'm
going to pass on yet
another guide for you to
take a look at called:
Even THEN ... I know that it
can get so far out of hand
for the couple because there
is just so many hurt feelings
and resentments to overcome,
that a brief guide simply doesn't
cut it.
And hey ... you may even be
one of those couples that never
fights ....
... maybe for you it's the
"cold shoulder" and the silent
treatment, which is just as
brutal.
So, even though I may not
know exactly what you are
dealing with as a couple...
... it's my experience that
there are common "threads"
and "trails" that couples
go down.
Another thing I know about
you is how improving things
with your spouse is SO
do-able ... no matter what
your experience.
There really is SO much
hope.
You just have to know what
to put your focus on ... and
this is what is most often
missing for the couple.
I'll say more about that in
my next email.
In the meantime, go take
a look at my guide:
and if you're a couple that
gets caught in this, see if
you can identify which
important step has been
missing and consider what
it would take to put all of
those steps into practice.
I'm really looking forward
to meeting you this Monday,
where I'm going to shed
some light on a NEW way
to begin to look at some
of the old stuff that might be
going on between you
and your partner.
See you tomorrow at the live
event :
"How To Improve Communication
With Your Spouse"
Donna
Couple's Love Coach
www.BetweenMenAndWomen.com
403 4559351
