| Hi Friend,
When you first got together, it was great wasn't it?
You were (probably) SO attentive...... SO caring .... ... on your best behavior even.
What the heck happened to THAT?
I don't mean to single you two out, but I'll bet you're not much different from the 100's of other couples I've worked with that say they've had this same experience ... (if not a taste of it).
Pretty darned good in the beginning ... maybe with a few rough spots ...
... then likely something happened (maybe kids came, career change, death of a parent) ... and bamm ...
... right before your eyes ...
... things started going South.
That was my experience too ... and it's a real common one.
I was in a marriage for 14 years that ended horribly ...
... and we were BOTH really good people.
It wasn't our fault ... we didn't know anything.
I didn't know ANY of what I teach couples today.
It seemed like there were a zillion things wrong with our communication and marriage when we ended it.
One big thing I noticed about us, especially toward the end, was that it would take nothing to get into a fight about everything.
A wide sweeping global statement, I know ... but no kidding, that's how it was.
I see now that one of our biggest problems was that we had absolutely NO structure or guidance on how to handle conflict that led to "Dumb Fights".
We could never get anywhere and resentments would just stack up ... one on top of the other to the point that it didn't even matter what we were fighting about ....
... it got so that we just looked at each other and the fight was on.
So if you're a couple that deals with this, as I did, I'm going to pass on yet another guide for you to take a look at called:
Even THEN ... I know that it can get so far out of hand for the couple because there is just so many hurt feelings and resentments to overcome, that a brief guide simply doesn't cut it.
And hey ... you may even be one of those couples that never fights ....
... maybe for you it's the "cold shoulder" and the silent treatment, which is just as brutal.
So, even though I may not know exactly what you are dealing with as a couple...
... it's my experience that there are common "threads" and "trails" that couples go down.
Another thing I know about you is how improving things with your spouse is SO do-able ... no matter what your experience.
There really is SO much hope.
You just have to know what to put your focus on ... and this is what is most often missing for the couple.
I'll say more about that in my next email.
In the meantime, go take a look at my guide:
and if you're a couple that gets caught in this, see if you can identify which important step has been missing and consider what it would take to put all of those steps into practice.
I'm really looking forward to meeting you this Monday, where I'm going to shed some light on a NEW way to begin to look at some of the old stuff that might be going on between you and your partner.
Talk to you later,
Donna Couple's Love Coach www.BetweenMenAndWomen.com 403 4559351
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