Hi Friend,

In 2012, researchers
announced the two
biggest reasons for
divorce:

1) Growing apart and

2) Not being able to talk
together

As you read this I suspect
you're thinking, "duh...no
kidding!"

If you've been present
to unhealthy communication
between you as a couple,
this email will give you
a path to follow, to help
you get things cleaned
up.

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The trouble between you
and your spouse is
real similar to having
a physical illness.

Here's how.

Let's say you've had
some symptoms of
blurry vision and
headaches ...

... you know your
symptoms.

At some point, your doctor
says "ah yes ... this is High
Blood Pressure" ...

... now, you know the name
of your illness.

And let's say you're older
and under a lot of stress ...

... now you know the
factors that contribute
to the high blood pressure.

If you substitute "high
blood pressure" with
"problems with my
spouse" ... you'll see
that it's right at this
point that us human
beings can lose all logic
and get delusional.

Knowing the symptoms,
the name and the factors
that contribute to an
illness (or your 

communication breakdown)

does not quite cut it.

If you were diagnosed
with high blood pressure
you wouldn't stop there
would you?

No ...you'd get it treated.

You'd know that if you
didn't DO something (as

opposed to knowing 

something), you'd be

Knowing about your
condition does not FIX
it for you.... it's not
enough.

I see this time and time
again with the men and
women I work with ...

... and this will likely 

sound super simplistic,

but it's important.

Couples make the fatal
mistake of knowing about

the things that drive them
crazy in their marriage ...

... and they stop right

there.

And here's what that
sounds like ... "we go
round and round in the
same circles" ..."we
never get anything
resolved" ... "it doesn't
seem to matter what
I do ... she's always
mad at me"..."he's so
selfish, he can't be with
my feelings and he makes
it all about him".

Don't be fooled.

Just because you know
what's wrong ...

... that you know you are
1) growing apart and/or...

2) that you are not
able to talk together, is
NOT what's going to make
the difference for you two.

It's how you are going to
treat this that's going to
get you a different
result.

I'm going to give you a

simple 3 step road map

for you that I call a

"Couple's Pathway
To Peace".

In a nutshell, when you
are spiraling around and
around, here is the
condensed version of
the 3 steps you can take,
to help you create a new
and satisfying experience
for yourselves.

Step 1) Commit.

As a couple, allow yourselves
to draw a line in the sand.

Even if you're not getting
along .... sit down together
and have a "no blame & to
the point" conversation

about the need to change the
situation between you and

make an agreement to do

that.

Get clear and both of you
make a decision that you
DO want a different result.

Sometimes we say we
want a different result but
really, we are MORE
committed to complaining
or being right about
something AND we are
just not seeing that.

2) Be Willing & Open

Even if you are frustrated
beyond measure, as a
couple, let yourselves
check in with one another
to be sure that you are
both OPEN to having
a new experience that
will really have you FEEL
good moving forward ...

... that as a couple, you
are not being so closed
minded, thinking that things
have to look one way, to
get a new result....or that
they can never change.

Again, at times we say
we are open but we are
actually being stubborn
about what we are or aren't
willing to accept or listen to.


3) Follow a Plan Of Action

As a couple, acknowledge
that you actually need to
take some action (rather
than complain)... you need
to DO something.

STOP trying to do this
yourself ... you need to
get logical about this and
acknowledge that if you
could do it ... you would
have done it by now...
and you haven't.

Ditch the "we can do this
ourselves" format... no
you can't.

You're just getting in your
own way with this faulty
belief.

There is SO much help
out there for you as a
couple.

And if you've tried
something in the past
that didn't work for you ...

... allow yourself to go
deeper ... OR ... try
something completely
new.

If anything I said in this email
resonates with you and you
really are looking for change
... I can help you.

I've worked with 100's of
couples just like you,
showing them exactly
how to go from a place
of despair to a place
of repair.

You both deserve better ...
so don't let yourselves
settle.

Come and claim that healthy
marriage, where you both
can enjoy your lives without
blame, judgement and
criticism.

Give yourself permission
to get back to a place of
ease, comfort and fun 

again with your spouse.

No one can do this for you...
you must step up and claim
this for yourselves. It really
IS yours for the taking.

Our next couple's retreat is
in Calgary on May 25-26th
and we'd love to have you.

For more details check out
our website at:

www.BetweenMenAndWomen.com

... or call me.

I'm more than glad to
address any concerns
or questions you may
have about how this
whole "group retreat
thing" works.


To Your Greatness!

Donna Tosky
"Queen Of Connection"
Couple's Love Coach
www.BetweenMenAndWomen.com
403 455-9351

ps Don't forget ... there's a
reason why a very famous
person once said, "Insanity
is doing the same thing over
and over again and expecting
different results."