Hi Friend,
We all want to be happy. If that's the case, why are so many of us unhappy, or at least not as happy as we could be or would like to be?
I'm going to be bold and put it out there that...
There's no reason we can't be as happy as we want.
Now don't get me wrong. I see what's happening in the world, and I understand that there seem to be lots of reasons to be unhappy - COVID-19 ... high unemployment ... racism ... climate change ... low oil prices ... financial struggles ... and probably a myriad of personal issues that you might be dealing with.
You've probably heard the saying, "Life is 10% about what happens and 90% about how we react to what happens." The temptation is to blow that off and say, "No I'm really unhappy, and all my reasons are legit. There's nothing I can do about that!"
Well, as real as that may feel, I'll bet you've also had the experience of having lots of negative things going on, but you just aren't buying into it. You feel good despite what's happening around you.
That tells me that the stuff that's going on around us is only as powerful as we let it be.
In other words, happiness is a choice.
And that's as true in your relationship as it is in the rest of your life.
Now as I say that, the hair probably starts standing on the back of your neck. You feel frustration and defensiveness start to well up as, "Yeah...real easy for HER to say!" runs through your mind.
All the reasons for being unhappy start flooding your brain. Of course, you are noticing all that you don't like and all that you don't want in your relationship/marriage.
All of your very real struggles and challenges act as a barrier that blocks you from getting what it is you actually want from the relationship. Don't worry...that's normal. It's called "negative bias" ... it happens to ALL of us that struggle in our relationship. That's why you have to deal with this stuff once and for all, otherwise you'll be overtaken by your struggles.
I've shown hundreds of couples that if we can deal with the things that cause us to struggle the most in a logical and rapid way, we are able to move forward quickly.
So as impossible as it may seem, you can still choose to be happy despite all that's going on in your relationship. Whatever challenges you feel you may have ... raising the kids, financial issues, health issues ... the reality is that you get to choose how you feel about them. You can also choose to acknowledge that truth or not. Your experience is in your control.
Having said that, eight out of ten couples are struggling with their communication and if you're one of them, you HAVE to do something different in this area.
The frustration, the sense of being alone, the feeling of not being heard or valued, or the lack of trust can run so deep that you need some help getting unstuck. Sometimes couples need help being shown why things break down...WHY you are where you are ...WHAT you can do about it and then of course, what there is to celebrate in your relationship and in each other.
The "Between Men and Women" Online Couples Communication Workshop has done just this for 100's of couples for the past 15 years, so why don't you join us and let us help you too?.
During the workshop you'll be reminded of, or perhaps become aware of for the first time:
- The physiology of "communication breakdown" & "connection".
- The neurological reason why men don't seem to listen.
- Simple methods for rebuilding connection fast.
- Why we drop into argument so quickly, and simple steps for managing those situations before they get out of hand.
- How to ignite the power of "We" - the opportunity of being a team and how to get there.
- Why women are angry and what men can do to avoid making matters worse.
- What women really want and the order in which to provide it.
- The 4-step "Sacred Circuit" that rebuilds connection, trust and mutual satisfaction and fulfillment.
- The much-greater-than-is-commonly-known role that neuro-chemicals and hormones play in how your relationship unfolds.
If you've ever wondered about how to...: - Focus on what's good in your relationship, and about your partner, so you can feel happy again.
- Quickly build connection and trust.
- Feel safe in relationship knowing you aren't being judged.
- Use your relationship as a resource that fuels the quality of your life and the impact you can have.
- Know that you are gotten, heard and valued, perhaps for the first time in a long time.
Or, if you have questions, or are ready to register, please call me at 403-455-9351, or email donna@betweenmenandwomen.com.
To Your Greatness!
Donna
P.S. Happiness is a choice. And we know "stuff" gets in your way. Being ABLE to focus on what makes you happy in your relationship is a great first step. If you want to learn, or need a reminder about how to do that, then join us on June 27-28, 2020 for the next "Between Men and Women" Online Couples Communication Retreat. Click here for details, or call or email with questions and to register. | 
