One of the biggest turn offs for high-quality women is when we feel like a man is ready to make us his girlfriend on our first date.
When a guy starts talking about what “we’re going to do” in the future before I’m even attracted to him it’s alarming.
I often feel like whoa whoa who said there’s a “we”?
On the other hand when a man inspires my attraction on a first date and then reads my clear signals, like when I start asking leading questions to check if he wants to see me, again.
Which shows that I'm clearly attracted to him.
and then he casually drops…
“hey if you keep growing on me like this, we should check out that art gallery you keep talking about, next time we do this, again.”
It is VERY attractive!
Why? Because at that point I’m showing my cards. I’m being super vulnerable, implicitly telling him that I like him.
Now he has me anticipating to learn how he feels about me.
It is then when a man casually insinuates that he likes what he sees and that he wants more, is it both attractive and comforting since now we’re on the same page about how we feel about each other.
AND in a way that is appropriate for a first date with two high-quality people.
Because we both want to feel that there’s attraction and “possibility” but that we haven’t locked in on each other, yet.
Since we’re both being choosy and discerning about who we date, right?
Try this technique and let me know how it goes. : )
with gratitude, |
