| When TJ came to me he was living in a loveless marriage.
Everyday he would tiptoe around his wife's volatile personality.
They had begun couples counseling because of her infidelity but he was still committed to making his marriage work.
"Valiant", I thought, upon us starting to work together.
It became clear, though, that TJ lacked boundaries with his wife.
Somehow, even in couples counseling for HER infidelity everything was still his fault.
In our work together I helped TJ take back his power, stop reflexively try to please his wife who didn't have much interest in hearing him, much less trying to please him.
He got really clear on the life that he wanted and the man he would need to become to have that life.
Together, we worked through the psychological patterns that kept him stuck. He began speaking up for himself. And ultimately got the courage to leave his toxic marriage.
Fast forward to now...
He has a beautiful, brilliant, kind-hearted girlfriend who adores him. He is living the life he envisioned.
Want to know the secret formula?
Well, it's simple, he learned how to advocate for himself in relationships.
He realized that what he wanted was possible and he went for it!
...And he committed to nip his people-pleasing habit in the bud. Which he did through weekly support.
I'm sharing this story with you for a couple of reasons.
1. I have a video this week sharing some tips and exercises that I gave to TJ on his coaching journey with me.
2. I have some spots open in my 1on1 coaching practice. If you'd like results like these, book a session and I'll assess your situation and together we'll come up with a plan of action. |
